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  • Apr 25, 2007, 12:32 AM
    babybear_434
    Death Recourse
    My father died of cance but before he died for like a year he suffered and I witnessed the whole thing. Him going through that. Now whenever anyone's sick like real sick not just cold like hospital sick or can't get up sick. I get really nervouse and like ant to cry. Even if I tell myself its alwright. I guess I'm feeling as if I can't go through anything like that again with anyone else. Does anyone have any calming tips that I could use when a situation like that occurs!! please and thank u:D
  • Apr 25, 2007, 12:34 AM
    Krs
    I went through the same.
    My dad passed away, he died of cancer too and I also witness his suffering so I totally comprehend how unfortunate it is.

    You just HAVE to be strong, it's a must.
    I know its hard but you have to overcome it.

    I believe my dad is my guardian angel, and he is wathcin over me, and all he wants is for to me to brave, strong and confident.
    And yours is too.
  • Apr 25, 2007, 01:29 AM
    Clough
    For me, the calming comes in realizing that no matter what happens to a loved one that they are going to be okay because they believe in the salvation of Jesus Christ.

    I remember holding my mother's hand on a number of occasions when she was in the hospital and saying to her, that "you know that no matter what happens, you're going to be okay." And, she would agree.

    Experience is a teacher if you let it be.

    I didn't used to think that I could be around people who were dying. Now, because of working at a nursing home for awhile and sitting with people and comforting them as they were dying, I know that it is something that I am good at. I welcome the opportunities to do that again.

    My dad died a long time ago of cancer. Took about a year. I witnessed all of his suffering. Once he had died, I knew that he was in a better place and his suffering was over. But, I was still immature, and even though I would have liked to, I was not able to play for his funeral because of my immaturity.

    My mom died about ten years ago. I watched her die on the hospital bed at the moment of her death. Because of the things that I had come to understand and my maturity in my faith and understanding, I was able to play, sing and speak at her funeral.

    My point is that what you experience will teach you if you let it.
  • May 1, 2007, 08:23 PM
    Tira68
    If your anxiety is that bad you might want to consult your doctor. Otherwise just give yourself time.

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