Hi I'm pegie, my concern is about my 2 month old daughter, she is my third child but doesn't seem to be as focused as my other two at this age,she was born 2 weeks early because of my preclampcia and she was in the nicu for a few days because of some low heart rates and was put on oxygen for respitory distress and is doing fine in all areas execpt when she's awake she will strain her head to look up and will not look directly at me even when I talk to her and when I finally do get her attention she just stares at me with no expression, but if I stick my tongue out and blow rasberries at her she will stick her tongue out. Am I just being paranoid or is she just not old enough yet? Has anyone experienced this with there 2 month old? Please help any info will help.

Please take your concerns to your pediatrician and ask for an infant development assessment of your daughter. Explain how you notice a difference between your daughter and your children at the two month old age. Be as specific as possible. While it is true that not all children progress at the same rate, there still are "standards" that doctors and therapists look at to diagnosis infant development problems and to get your daughter appropriate services (if that is what is needed).

There is so much information out there on infant development and milestones that you can expect your daughter to achieve at each month. Just pick one and start reading. If you see something that triggers a question, write that down. Ask, ask, and ask again for help. If your doctor does not respond in the manner you feel is best, get a second opinion. Also check with your state's Department of Human Services - Early Intervention Program.

I think your concerns are legitimate and, if for no other reason that to ease your fears, you have to right to know if your daughter is on track with her development.

Here is the page of links for infant development and milestones:
infant development - Google Search

If you are having concerns - always talk to your doctor.
Although, at 2 months old, she can't really focus and see clearly yet. Right now, you are just a blob of color to her. Try getting some black, white and red toys for her. Those combos. Of colors - kids can focus in on. She is responsive to you and that is good.
Each child is different - so, it will be hard to tell at 2 months.
My daughter was also 2 weeks early for the same reason. She spent time in the NICU because there was fluid on her lungs and she was hypoglycemic. I found out though, that 2 weeks early isn't necessarily considered a premature birth.
Like I said, ANY time you have concerns about anything with your child - call your doctor. She should be coming up for her 8 week check up (if she hasn't already) and you could use that opportunity to discuss this with her.
You are not paranoid - you are a mom and you have instincts - trust them.

Thank you so much for your response, yes her 8 week check up is tomorrow and I will discuss my concerns with her doctor and hope that he is also concerned, but again thank you for taking time to answer me and my duty for today... black white & red!!

My son is developmentally delayed and there are many tests your doctor can give. Or ask for a referral to a development specialist.

Our city has a program called Infant Stim that is a part of the public school system. Ask your doctor if your community has it and call them for a screening, too. My son did 2 years of Infant Stim then went into special ed preschool and I believe it helped him a great deal.

Thank you so much for your reply, I will ask her doctor about that program.

I don't think your child's responses at 2 mo are that much different than I remember mine at 2 mo. I think at 3-4 he was starting to reach for rings and stuff... but I think at 2-3 he was still kind of staring "out there"... definitely not smiling in response to smiles all the time.

I really don't think id fret. Talk to your doc and read some... there are good books out there that tell you what stages your child is going through... though even those can have some wide windows.

My daughter did everything much sooner than my son.

Thanks you have been very helpful and put my mind at eaze.