Hi All

I am a tall atrractive women, but not skinny.. and lately have been feeling really insecure about my weight..
I've been engaged for about 8 months- but somehow it feels my fiancé doesn't find me attractive anymore..
I have picked up a few kg's.. and try everyday to let go of it! Do guys prefer very thin girls? And me being a bit over weight- could it change his feelings towards me? :confused:

Emotions should run deeper than what you look like. If he ever gives you the impression that a little weight gain has bothered him, I'd dump him like a bad habit.

However, it sounds like the weight gain has bothered you. Good health is important for us all, and although its not necessary to be model-thin, a healthy weight can positively impact many aspects of your life.

my ex used to say he didn't like cuddling up to o coat hanger because I was to skinny,(stress related) before I met him. Then started putted on a bit of weight and he preferred it.coz he actually had sum think to cuddle other than bones.
the fact that I'm not with him any more has nothink to do with my weight. He just a stupid druggy.
if your engaged that should tell u he loves u.
why not try talking to him about the way your feeling and he should reassure u that u look perfect to him in his eyes and that's all that matters. As long as u are happy with yourself it don't matter what other people think. Some people are shollow.

I have a little fluff and my husband loves it. He says he doesn't like stickbugs. I guess it depends on the man.

Whatever you do, don't project your insecurities on him and accuse him of feeling that way. Not only will that make for an awkward conversation, he may likely be offended by your thoughts of him being that shallow.

Talk honestly about it with him.

What are the signs that he shows that he's not attracted to you anymore?

Maybe you are just assuming things out of your own insecurities. If you want to change physcially do it for yourself and for your health. Your loved one should love you beyond the physical aspects. If you are really curious just communicate with him but don't doubt his answers.

I don't necessarily agree with having to be complimented everyday for you to believe he is still attracted to you. Find other signs of it that you might be overlooking. Us women tend to easily remember what they don't do versus what they have done already.

I hope you don't have the beginings of an image problem, which leads to eating disorders. To answer your question, Real men accept their woman for what she is, even after a few kids.

Here is a man's prospective. Lose the weight and everything will be great. He was attracted to you before because you where thinner. Hold him to the same standards as well

Dump him every one has problems
Like he should be the one to critisice
I bet your very beautiful :)