Hi guys... I have tried everything nothing and I mean NOTHING will work. My stepson whom is 10 absolutely hates me, I am at the end with him. He will do nothing I ask him to do. When his dad gets him he stays right under his dad. I have set bed time rules shower time rules and none of this works. Dad simply won't follow through. The stepson is finally in bed around 12am and I am tired of not sleeping. My house stays a wreck because he is not made to help. He is not made to do anything. He does not follow any rules. He tells me he hates me to my face. We have custody of this kid. His friends nor his friends parents want him around, because he always fights his friend, and the mom hates his mouth. I won't take him annywhere because he is merly a disrespect to me. I am so embarrassed of him. Must I also add, this boy stands in my face and tells me what hell do and when. He also throws things, kicks, and hits the walls. He is not ADD and has no anger problems he does this just because. He has told people that he does these things to run me off. Me and the Dad and married very happily but when he is here it is pure hell. I am at witts ends and don't know what to do. I don't want to leave because I really love my husband. I have told him that his son is pulling us apart and he said no he's not we are fine. I don't feel that we are fine. I would love to have my own child with him. But, I just don't think this is at all possible. Please help me someone.

No anger problems? He is angry as hell that his parents broke up and have found new lives with other people. He is acting out his rage in your face and the person who could get this under control, i.e. his father, has abdicated the job. I'm guessing because dad feels guilty and doesn't want to be the "bad guy."

Family counseling would be a great place to start and dad has got to get it together or you will be miserable for as many years as the visitation lasts.

Yes you are right about the son being angry over the split it has been 5 years since though. When I first moved in I was just here because I needed a place to stay and the son loved me wanted to be under me and do everything with me. This behavior has just started at the end of last year. Yes dad does feel guilty and won't discipline him for hardly anything. How do I get that to change?

Therapy sounds great right about now. For all of you. Wow, you have it cut out for you. You are a good woman for sticking with it. You and your husband need to get together on this, he needs to act like a man and teach his son how to be one too. Therapy will show him some tools to do it without being the "bad" guy. He might end up losing a wonderful wife over this if you don't sit him down tonight and tell him you made 3 appt. today for all of you. I wish you luck.