Married for six years with no kids. I don't feel the love for my husband that I feel for my best friend now. Not sure if I ever have. I feel like I forced sex on my friend, I told him I loved him and he loves me, and every day I'm with my husband I know it hurts him. I don't want to continue my marriage anymore but I suppose I fear the outcome if I get a divorce. I know I can't live with my husband forever, and I know I don't want to. We feel like roomates, we married because we were lonely, I've had an affair, what am I waiting for? I've never opened up to my husband emotionally but I can open up to my friends. I fear him, but we have fun. I don't care if my husband has sex with other women, but I get jealous if my friend does. My husband and I have a dead sex life, my friend and I are amazing together. I don't want kids with my husband. EVER. But with my friend I can see us having kids. I dress up for my friend, but not my husband. I have more fun without my husband. I want a divorce, what am I waiting for? :confused:

I don't know what you are waiting for. I think there most be something holding you back maybe its just you don't want to have to actually tell him you want a divorce maybe your scared to?

You probably know that your friend is NOT the one either.

Didi

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I dunno what you are waiting for. I think there most be something holding you back maybe its just you don't want to have to actually tell him you want a divorce maybe your scared to?

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I am scared to. Shouldn't anyone be afraid of divorce?

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You probably know that your friend is NOT the one either.

Didi

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Whether he is the one or not, I realize my husband isn't either.

What is it about divorce that scares you? You don't have a marriage. It doesn't even sound like you a have any connection at all with him? Why did you marry him? Is there anything there worth fighting for... saving... improving??

Didi

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Originally Posted by grammadidi

What is it about divorce that scares you? You don't have a marriage. It doesn't even sound like you a have any connection at all with him? Why did you marry him? Is there anything there worth fighting for... saving... improving???

Didi

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I am afraid of being alone. He was there when my father passed and I loved my father so much, and I suppose that is what I love about him, but I know that's not an excuse. I married him out of loneliness and I thought he was cheating on me, and wanted him to myself. I don't want to be married but I don't know how to put it.

It sounds to me that you could really benefit from some counseling... first on your own, and once you figure things out some couple's counseling with him. A good therapist can either help you make it work, or help it end in a positive way.

Didi