My girlfriend of 6 years has broke up with me and I am heartbroken. I have moved out and left her and my 2 dogs and miss them very much. She said she wanted space and a break. I pushed her away by contacting and eventually she told me never to contact again. We were going to try for a family and were going to get married. I have left her alone for a while now and will continue to. She has sent me so many mixed messages, I still love you, I hate you, I don't want to meet anyone else I want a baby, I don't know what to think. She did say that if I had of left her and given space from the start that would have helped. We are both in our mid thirties so this is a real life changer, but more so for me I feel. I want her back and have told her how I feel I just hope a good amount of time will help us mend and start again.Any advice.Thanks.

What exactly happened? Why all of a sudden a change? Did she explain herself, or is there somebody else in the picture. What exactly do you think your role was in her wanting to have a break with you?

6 years is a long time to all of a sudden call quits for no reason, or what seems to be no reason from what you wrote. Can you explain your situation better?

Joe

The relationship started to break down. I became depressed due to various reasons and ended up taking a lot out on her and being miserable. I pushed her away. She was not blameless but we just stopped communicating and she asked me to leave. I have told her it could all be put right and I have changed and seen the error of my ways. She did say she was doing it to make us stronger and when I said OK she said you can't go into it thinking that or else it won't work but when I saw her a while back I brought that up but she denied it. I don't know, it's such a shame because we could have had it all and we could be happy again.I think she thinks I have a problem with commitment and we were going to have to try ivf treatment I suppose these factors place pressure on the relationship.

What do you taking it out on her, what exactly were you taking out on her?

It takes two, both of you are to blame. Communication goes both ways. Not just one way.

That is the biggest killer in a relationship when communication stops. Communication needs to be opened up by both partners in order for there to be any reconciliation, but it does sound like it is over. She is not giving any idea of how long the break is, or if it is permanent or not.

Eighter way, you must of heard this before. This is a time where instead of focusing on what you could have had or might still have or etc... What you need to do is focus on yourself and do things that are better for you, to improve on yourself and discover hobbies or just go out and have fun. Try to learn and grow to be comfortable on your own.

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Originally Posted by buddy123

My girlfriend of 6 years has broke up with me and i am heartbroken. I have moved out and left her and my 2 dogs and miss them very much. She said she wanted space and a break. I pushed her away by contacting and eventually she told me never to contact again. We were going to try for a family and were going to get married. I have left her alone for a while now and will continue to. She has sent me so many mixed messages, i still love you, i hate you, i don't want to meet anyone else i want a baby, i don't know what to think. She did say that if i had of left her and given space from the start that would of helped. We are both in our mid thirties so this is a real life changer, but more so for me i feel. I want her back and have told her how i feel i just hope a good amount of time will help us mend and start again.Any advice.Thanks.

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