My ex and I broke up 3 weeks ago because he is moving far away and does not plan on returning any time soon. We had already been doing the long distance relationship for 5 months, only seeing each other for about a week during that time, and we just could not do a long distance relationship any longer without the option of seeing each other on a more regular basis. We both have stated that we want to remain friends and I really want to contact him, but is it too soon to do that. I know I'm not over him yet, but I want to know how he's doing, since all contact has been cut off since the day after we broke up and its driving me crazy not knowing what's going on in his life and being able to talk to him about mine. When should I contact him, or should I wait for him?

Call him. Apparently you guys had a stronger friendship than relationship. Call him as a friend, make sure his move went well, and if he needs anything to call you. I don't understand why you promised to remain friends but you cut off all contact for 3 weeks.

Back off.

The driving you crazy not knowing what going on in his life is absolutely normal. Its maddening, but normal.

You just need to learn to live with it.

Hell... I'm in a fantastic marriage and I still wonder from time to time if my last ex misses me. Its normal.

So... I think you need to back off for some time.

How long? Tough to say. You both want to be friends but you are not ready yet... you might want to be ready, but you aren't there yet.

Tell him you want to be friends but you need some time to get past the relationship. Take at least 6 mo to do this. Don't burn bridges. Don't be a snot. But take some time to be without him.

You need this time without him if you really want to be friends... anything less is fooling yourself.

But again, don't be too hard on yourself. What you are feeling sucks, but is "normal".

Isn't life twisted sometimes?

I would love to be friends with my ex. We broke up about three months ago. I pushed him away because I kept calling him and well didn't let him see what he missed. I cannot be friends with my ex because I still have feelings for him. I have a boyfriend who I must be loyal to now and he has a girlfriend. Believe me, I want to hate his girlfriend so bad, but I can't. Jealously is horrible when it sets in. The truth of the matter is, I hated my ex's schedule, I hated how rude he was to my family and how he always acted like his mother and him were always better than me. He said I was selfish, but it was always about him. Our personalities just clashed so much. I think its his fault, he thinks its my fault and we will NEVER EVER agree. I want to say maybe I will change, but I'm not changing who I am for some guy. I am scared to death of not finding someone to marry one day. But, I have to live one day at a time. So, it's great having friends and still be able to talk to him. But, I think if he really wanted to talk to you, he would have contacted you. You have waited three weeks, so maybe it would be okay. But, you have to look out for yourself too. So, would contacting him open up your feelings and make you sad because he is no longer yours? You can't do that to yourself. It is a horrible feeling liking someone and having them not experience the same thing in return. It's a fact of life that I hate so much. But, okay, you have one life to live and you have to make the best of it. I think Walt Disney said this, "Keep Moving Forward!"

How about giving you both time to get overeach other before doing the friendship thing. 6 months sounds reasonable. Until then enjoy your single life.