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  • Apr 20, 2007, 09:22 AM
    Chica Fish
    The Cougar Craze
    I just recently got out of a relationship, I have been talking to a younger man quite a bit via over the phone. We have not gone out on a date. We work together, he is my subordinate. This is my dilemma:

    #1 - I think he is too young
    #2- I do not date people I work with
    #3 - I have children , he has a child
    #4- I just got out of a relationship

    Question #1 Should I just stay friends with him, or cut it off at the knees... now so that it does not go any further?

    Question #2- How do I know he is really interested in me ? Maybe it is because I am up on the food chain in the office?

    Please help me I am so confused??
  • Apr 20, 2007, 09:34 AM
    Emland
    If he is a subordinate, you are just asking for trouble. If the relationship goes sour he could make things very difficult for you.

    I also think it helps to put some time between relationships. Give yourself some time.
  • Apr 20, 2007, 09:39 AM
    Chica Fish
    Well, I believe you are right but would it be wrong to talk to him on the phone, just to pass time?
  • Apr 20, 2007, 09:45 AM
    Emland
    If you are both satisfied being friends, why not?
  • Apr 20, 2007, 09:50 AM
    Chica Fish
    Thanks ,Cheers!
  • Apr 20, 2007, 07:42 PM
    talaniman
    Chica Fish]I just recently got out of a relationship, I have been talking to a younger man quite a bit via over the phone. We have not gone out on a date. We work together, he is my subordinate. This is my dilemma:

    #1 - I think he is too young-A valid consideration
    #2- I do not date people I work with=A good rule to have
    #3 - I have children , he has a child- me too, and grand children, and a fish.
    #4- I just got out of a relationship-Give yourself time to get between ralationships, and don't give this young guy false hopes for more than friendship.

    Question #1 Should I just stay friends with him, or cut it off at the knees... now so that it does not go any further?
    Work place is not a good to have relationships with. And give a lot of thoughts to being friends with subordinates. Not always a good idea at all.
    Question #2- How do I know he is really interested in me ? Maybe it is because I am up on the food chain in the office?
    It doesn't matter as this is your work place, not the dating game.
    Please help me I am so confused??
    When confused you act appropriately at your work place to protect your job, everything else is irrelevant.

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