My girlfriend has decided to take a break from me because she has some issues with depression and also resents me for not always putting her first in priority.

We've had our ups and downs. The night she broke the news to me, her emphasis was on a need to find herself. She can't be happy with me if she isn't happy with herself.

I said okay, if that's the way you feel. I just want you to be happy, etc etc. A couple of weeks later, so tells me it's also because of the priority thing.

That came out of nowhere.

I'm doing my best to give her time and space, and was wondering if there were any stories where a couple got back together again.

From what I've read, there is no happy ending. Taking a break usually means a break-up.

It sucks, because I really love her a lot, man.

Well,

You can not control her decisions. It was her decision to take a break. We all have choices and decisions to make. Some good and some bad. All I can say is it sounds like she is trying to justify why you guys took a break. Changing the reasons. As well, with a break there should be no contact for a matter of time. Guess there was no guideline or timeline for break.

I would say a lot of the time a break usually eventually turns into a permanent thing.

Sounds like she is still resentful you can not do anything about that now.

It is possible to get back together. My boyfriend and I were together for two years when I graduated from High School. I always thought my boyfriend put things before me and for once I wanted to get out and do my own thing. I ended up deciding I needed a break shortly after I got my own apartment. We took a break (neither of us saw other people, although we never made that promise to each other). A few months later we decided to hang out again and ended up getting back together. The break made us so much stronger and we never take each other for granted anymore. We have never been happier and we have plans to get married real soon.

So, it IS possible... but not certain. You cannot change how she feels but if she loves you like you love her, you two will find your way back together.

It's nice to know someone came out of this with a positive experience. Congratulations, LuvMyMaltipoo.

As for me, I'm trying to use this opportunity to better myself. I've promised myself that no matter what happens, I am going to be the better person. No fighting, no crying. What ever will be, will be.

It's hard, though, imagining a future without her. She was/is my first true love. I've had other girlfriends before, but this was totally different. I never thought I would find someone who would mean this much to me, and there is absolutely nothing I can do to fix this.

She's not just another girl. She's the one I fell in love with by the swing set.

Anyone else have any success stories?

I've been there before give her the space that she needs me an my fiancé done that awhile back. We were broken up for 6 months, but the time apart really helped us re-connect in the end.

I can't predict what happens in the future but I can tell you to give her space and live your life without her in it and find your ow happiness. Obviously things have changed and she isn't the little girl by the swing set anymore. Life goes on and so should you.

I'm treating this break as a break-up and trying to move on with my life. I definitely have now imposed a NC rule on myself.

I do have a dilemna, however.

Her birthday is coming up. Should I break NC and get flowers delivered to her apartment? Part of me wants to do this because of the history we had together. Part of me doesn't because I don't want to send the wrong message.

What do you think I should do?

Well that's a tough one. It's almost like your going to be damned if you do and damned if you don't. I don't think you should deliver the flowers-she wants a break so give it to her. Don't worry about it and just move on. My boyfriend and I broke up for nine months and just out of the blue he called one day and said he loved me and didn't want to lose me and so we got back together and are happy, but during those nine months I had no contact and did my own thing. I knew he loved me and I knew he would come back. But even if he didn't it had been so long that I realized I was just fine without him.

Thanks, missk.

Your welcome! :)