Ask Me Help Desk - Run away daughter

My 15 year old daughter is refusing to come home,she is staying at my ex partners house,he is not her father.the police have brought her home on numerous occasions,but she always goes again,I am at my wits end, especially as my ex is well known for having relations with underage girls,he is 50 and is always giving her money,something which I can't afford to do.do I place her in care, I don't know what to do,she doesn't go to school,the house where she is staying is just a dos house,I cannot get her myself as I have an injunction on my ex,she has a bad attitude towards my my 9 year old son,and my 18 year old daughter,she also drinks,smokes,and I am sure she is on drugs

It sounds like your daughter has a reason to run away. You said that your ex is known to have relations with underage girls. Is this what he has done to your daughters?

You need to look into what is causing her to act out, it sounds to me that she has had some sort of abuse happen to her. She defiantly needs counseling, have you even tried to get her into counseling?

There should be local programs or even the law that should help you out with your daughter. Abandoning her or not finding out what is wrong will only make matters worse.

Joe

I do the same thing but my mum was always bring people to our home and I hated that so if you have new guys all the time she mit just not feel safe or loved I am the same but I really stuff my life I'm 13 years old and now having a baby and in dhs care it may help but if I was you don't get dhs involed till you can't do anything at all dhs if they take your little girl that will be the end you will never get her back

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Originally Posted by sahara71

my 15 year old daughter is refusing to come home,she is staying at my ex partners house,he is not her father.the police have brought her home on numerous occasions,but she always goes again,i am at my wits end, especially as my ex is well known for having relations with underage girls,he is 50 and is always giving her money,something which i can,t afford to do.do i palce her in care, i don,t know what to do,she doesn,t go to school,the house where she is staying is just a dos house,i cannot get her myself as i have an injunction on my ex,she has a bad attitude towards my my 9 year old son,and my 18 year old daughter,she also drinks,smokes,and i am sure she is on drugs

When I was younger I used to run away from my family home, different situation of course. Abused at home and constantly absconding led me into care with Department of human services. Whilst in care with them I experienced abuse from carers, continuous stays in psych wards and other secure inviroments, I was introduced to some really terrible people, mainly teenagers with drug problems. These kids would just walk around everyday and assult people in the street. SOME POLICE WERE EVEN TOO AFRAID TO CHARGE THEM FOR THEIR TROUBLES. I dropped out of school in year 9 because there was no longer any encouragement to go and worst of all I got into drugs. I tried them all, they really stuff you up, but I can still see why they are used. What you need to ask yourself is whether you want you're child in that environment? Also if you don't put your child in care Human Services may do that for you which can make it harder for you to get her back. I understand that there are major concerns for her, and she does really need help. I hope sometrhing in my story will help with your decision because in the end its up to you... Goodluck

You can get children and family service ( or what ever they are called in your area involved) and you could get the juv court involved, running away is illegal and they can detain her, send her to juv detention, boot camp, CPS or CFS could place her in a foster care or in a more secure locaton also.

I would much perfer her in some other care than with a possible sexual abuser.

I'm sorry about this just letting you know 1 more person cares I'm only 11 so I won't be much help anyway