My little brother is in a soccer team with one of his best friends and he has an older brother who is a year younger than me. Last year his family and a few other ones came over for a barbecue and he was friendly and stuff to me... more than the other guy there who is my age.. the one I was talking about in my previous threads. And he actually talked to me while the other guy just sat there. Recently at a soccer dinne rthing he was there and we went to a restaurant and we didn't sit near each other or talk at all. I guess I'm just a bit confused on what to do here because I think I might like him and its not as if I go to the same school as him and he is a year younger than me and I would feel so stupid going up to him in a soccer training and randdomly talking to him. How do you suggest I go about becoming friends with him or talking to him without seeming like a weirdo?? Please help me! I'm so clueless!

I think you need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. He isn't a mind reader and neither are you. Sounds like it could be interesting. Go try to bump into him accidentally on purpose anywhere and everywhere until he notices you.

I actually I saw him today at my little brothers soccer and we didn't talk. It was really awkward and I didn't know what to say, I mean, his mum was right there I didn't want her to think I was coming on to him! I could tell we were both shy.. lol

Sounds to me like he's feeling the same way and doesn't know what to say either. How much younger than you is he? I don't think it really matters. You could aim to just be friends, get to know each other a bit first. If you both feel the same you won't want to mess it up - take it slow.

You might just be young but I think you'll understand this… Relationships that burn slow like a candle last longer than relationships that burn like a match - flash, poof and it's burnt out. Take it slow.

I don't know what he is thinking. I'm only a year above him in school and I am one of the youngest in my grade so its not like a major age difference. Yehh I don't mind just being friends with him its just I don't even know how to do that? Like I don't know what to say and all the parents were there so it would look a bit weird. Yeah I understand what you mean I think I should just take my time and build up my courage, I'm not the type of girl that's all confident so I won't have that problem..

I don't know what else to tell you sweetheart. He likes you, you like him. You really got to try to talk to each other.

But are you sure he likes me? I mean I don't want to get my hopes up. I could go to my brothers soccer game again this weekend but I get really shy I don't know if I could talk to him..

I just don't think he would like me, I mean I'm not good enough for him!

I seriously don't know what to say to him, I don't want to make things awkward

Just be cool with him first.
Don't profess your undying love to him the first time (well second) you guys talk
He might be a little creeped out.
Just talk first and become friends, because then you can get to know him better as a person.
And who cares about age? Maybe the magazines that say younger is desperate,
And older id slutty,
But honestly if you like the guy, does he have to perfect in everway?
But take it easy the first couple of weeks, maybe hint that you may like him.

Lol thanks for your advice. I definitely would not make it obvious or profess my undying love for him!

Also today I was telling my friend about him and I asked her if she thought I should go to my brother's soccer game again and this time talk to him and she said that I shouldn't get hung up on something that is never going to happen!
I took this to heart, now I feel like such a loser. Do you think it's a waste of time? I can't believe she said that, am I that pathetic?

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lol thanks for your advice. i definitely would not make it obvious or profess my undying love for him!

also today i was telling my friend about him and i asked her if she thought i should go to my brother's soccer game again and this time talk to him and she said that i shouldn't get hung up on something that is never going to happen!
i took this to heart, now i feel like such a loser. do you think its a waste of time? i can't believe she said that, am i that pathetic?

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Okay, to be blunt, your friend is the one that's pathetic
Friends should be there to encourage you, not put you down.
If you think it's going to happen, then listen to your heart
You don't need negative advice from someone.
You're not a loser.
Everyone deserves to have what they want
And if you want him, then go for it!

Okay thank you! I know its not intentional when she says it, I think it just comes out sometimes. I really like him and after she said that I just felt like I'm wasting my time. I am not very good in this area, I have never had a boyfriend and I always get shy around guys so I don't put myself out there or make the fact like I like them obvious so do you have any like tips, subtle ones ? Lol thanks I really appreciate your help!

I used to be really shy about having a boyfriend
So I would do stupid things to get them to notice me.
But soon I learned that the best guys aren't into the type of girls that
Wear slutty clothes to get attention, or a pound of makeup.
What has always worked for me (and I know it sounds cheesy)
Is being yourself.
I've never followed the latest trend, I've made up my own.
And casually flirting always works best *wink* lol
Don't be afraid to talk to the guy, because a girl that knows what she's doing and doesn't back out is always the best.
And don't get jealous if he talks to other girls, it doesn't mean he doesn't like you!
Good luck with this, I hope you get the guy!

If you ever want to talk just message or add my msn: [email protected]

Cool thanks. I know what you mean, I will try to be more confident, key word try! Lol
I just hope I don't make a fool out of myself!
Lol

Haha don't worry about making a fool out of yourself.
I do that everyday, but the people that love you won't care lol

Haha yes so do I!
Well I will try to muster up what courage I have and talk to him! But I'm sure it won't make any difference. I'm more of a 'friends' girl not a girlfriend girl . Like you know, guys don't notice me because I'm not extremely stunning like other girls!

Lol
Well that's what I think about myself.
I have a lot of guy friends but that doesn't mean your instantly a "friend" type girl
You're beautiful in your own way, I have gotten guys I thought I never deserved
But they liked me for who I am
I don't have gorgeous looks, or anything
But somehow guys still get interested in you!
(it's life's biggest wonder lol)

I don't know, I really don't. Everything is just so confusing. How am I supposed to know how to act and be like I mean nobody actually tells you how to have a relationship, it just happens for most people.and I go to an all girls school so I'm not friends with any guys so I'm so clueless. And I no that you are supposed to be yourself and all that but am I really going to achieve anything by liking him, I mean the last time I liked a guy he treated me like a piece of dirt on his shoe, he wouldn't give me the time of day and it broke my heart. I just don't know if I could take that again, even if nothing has happened yet. I don't think he would ever be mean to me but then again I don't think he would like me either. I was talking to my friend last night when she slept over and I told her about it and she said that I shouldn't just give up and that I don't no what he is thinking and I no its ture but somehow I just can't see this ending any better than last time. I don't want another broken heart, it still hurts now. I can't handle anymore rejection. I don't want to give up on him but I don't no what else to do.. :(