I've been with my fiancé for 1 year and 4 months (4 months engaged)... Our relationship was pretty good in just about every way for the first year, but since then (after engagement) she started working more then any person I know... It's caused me to get frustrated, angered and sad... Our communication has dropped and her mood has as well (lack of sleep usually)... Our sex life went from 3-4 times a week (good sex) to maybe 1 time a week if that because of her work schedule and tiredness... Starting in late May, she is going to be cutting back to a better schedule and in July she will live closer... Should I tough it out till then to see if the problems are strictly over working and tired related or should I jump off this ship right now? I do love her, but I'm starting to notice myself looking around at other friendly and attractive women more lately... I will not cheat on her, but am wondering if my mind is telling me to get out because of the lack of time together... I think we can get back to a good healthy relationship in the next few months, it seems my mind and hormones are trying to push me out... Should I continue fighting the good fight for her and see what happens after she gets back to a normal schedule? Sorry to ramble...

Jeremy

Stick with her if you love her... a good relationship is worth fighting for. Communication is a key ingredient.

If this is the same female from your other post, then you already know what to do and that is get her help.

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Originally Posted by Rina _4

Stick with her if you love her.... a good relationship is worth fighting for. Communication is a key ingredient.

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CURRENTLY BELOW:

Sex life:

6.5 out of 10


Communication:

6 out of 10


Love stuff (caring, sweet gestures, etc):

7.5 out of 10


This is how I would rate our life so far together (top 3 areas)... I think with sleep and more time together we could raise the sex life to an 8 , the communication to an 8, the love stuff to 8. I know this may be a silly way of looking at it, but it makes it easier to see the areas of trouble right now...

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Originally Posted by jeremy4719

CURRENTLY BELOW:

Sex life:

6.5 out of 10


Communication:

6 out of 10


Love stuff (caring, sweet gestures, etc):

7.5 out of 10


This is how I would rate our life so far together (top 3 areas).... I think with sleep and more time together we could raise the sex life to an 8 , the communication to an 8, the love stuff to 8. I know this may be a silly way of looking at it, but it makes it easier to see the areas of trouble right now...

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Okay, so you rate your relationship which is fine, but you need communication to be your most important thing because when you have communication at a high, every thing else will be smooth sailing... sex, love stuff and all.

Why is she working herself to death??

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Why is she working herself to death????

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To pay off her past debt... Plus she wants to move closer to town from the 1hr drive she current lives at... That's why she is working so much... She will be down to about 48-56hrs a week from 80+ a week starting in late May..

That is an absolutely brutal schedule. Hope she lives through it. Maybe she needs a better plan to pay off her debts. Or at least stretch the time out. Good Luck