I had been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we had been through a lot, supported each other, and grown together. We have an amazing connection where we understand each other so well, even things we don't yet recognise in ourselves. And when we met, we immediately felt like we had know each all our lives.
We are both still young, although I grew up faster than most, and we came to a point in our relationship where we were stuck. We needed to move forward, but didn't feel like we were in the right place in our lives, in other areas to get married.
I wanted to finish University and start my career. And he needed to grow up, I also think he felt he didn't have enough to offer yet, as he talked about wanting to set himself and us up. So we decided he would start his OE early, and I would follow a year later.
Its almost a year later now, and although he's constantly on my mind, we don't talk much. We tried to stay together, and we called everyday for the first little while, but it got to hard and painful to be living our old life without him, and him to be living a new life without me. So we tried to distance ourselves and let fate take its course, which is almost as hard. He has wanted to come home many times, and I have wanted it too, but don't think he is really ready to.
Neither of us have had much success in seeing other people, as it doesn't feel right, and have tried to move on, I just don't know if I should.
If he still hasn't grown up, then is he the one? Or will he ever be?

It sounds like he's the one. To me- everything else is trivial, love is what keeps us together. It sounds like you two are meant to be together. Whatever it takes for you both to be together- do it. Feelings and connections like that don't come around too often.. could you imagine life without him? Is he what you need to be happy and feel fulfilled? If yes, go get him!

Thanks for your response, I am pretty sure he is, but don't know if I should wait until he grows up to try and make things work, we were stuck in a rut before he left, and I'm not sure if enough has changed yet, but I also hate living without him. Should the fact that we are both holding back mean something?

Have you talked to him about this? What does he want out of the relationship? Is he ready to recommit to you and to your life together? Even the best relationships fail when there is no communcation between the parties. So, my advice would be to talk to him, see what he wants, tell him what you need. Then if you are both on the same page, continue with your relationship. Distance is a hard thing to overcome, but it is not impossible.

A relationship can't always be fun 24/7, life is sometimes a rut. You have bills to pay, life to get on with! Perhaps you both need to live a little first? Before committing. Leading separate lives also does not mean you cannot be together or won't be in the future. COMMUNICATION.

I'm a little confused when you say he needs to grow up, so what specifically do you mean. Strong healthy relationships are built on being able to communicate and work together to solve your problems to the benefit of both and that can be a long hard and at times, frustrating process. It begins with honest communications though.

Hey if you listen to your heart ull know he's the one he's perfect for u