Ok well to cut this story short.. there is a Girl I know who broke up with a kid and well I helped her basically get over and I asked her to prom.. thinking well that would be a slight hint at least that id like to date her and what not. Well within a week of prom she begins to go out with well what her friends have been saying a very annoying character and well rather stupid, But I guess it well just doesn't seem right they should be together, Should I expect this to be a long thing or just it may be over soon? Also at prom well we had a real awesome time I mean I really had some real feelings I never had come out and well for the past few days I've just been kind of depressed of the fact we just felt right, she was laying on my shoulder and I was telling her stories on our trip home and I guess well id like to know if I should just leave it be or just well give it time? Or even tell her my real feeling about her to just get it off my chest?

Also before she was going out with this guy she wrote me a 4 page letter and well I guess I was thinking she felt the same way I did and well I wrote a letter back about 3 pages saying I was jealous of that guy and stuff and I was hesitant to send it but I still sent the letter and well id really appreciate some help with this cause I really like and well you may even say love this girl and well I think she would be better off with me than this Annoying Fool.

Thanks..

Oh also me and this girl have hung out a few times and had allot of real good fun.. it just hurts me that well she almost completely ignores me but when we talk its really I guess deep you could say it seems we would just be right?. but back before we were really close and well I guess I might have blew my chance to ask her out I guess? Well this feeling really sucks.. hope you guys can help.. I've been reading other stuff and would be interested in what is said here.. Im really falling a. part here but I'm still dealing with everything fine, work, school and everything else, but I must admit I find myself just thinking about Her and what to do..

Ah sweetie. Your heart was in the right place. You were there for her after a break up giving emotional support and a date to the prom. It's not uncommon for people after a break up to turn to someone else. Emotions run high and so do egoes. No one likes to be replaced so they sometimes turn to the one there for them. I hate this term but it sounds like a rebound thing. I am trying so hard to give her the benefit of the doubt and not say she didn't play you for a date to the prom after breaking up with her boy friend.like I said ego is involved and she might have needed to save face especially if she was planning to go with the guy who dumped her.

I'm sorry you got hurt. Anyone would've been if they were in your shoes. Unfortunately we can't force people to like us or have those special feelings for us as we do for them. In trying to help someone on an emotional level we get caught up in it too.
May be in time she might come around and dump the annoying fool but don't hold you're breath.

You sound like a great person. I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there who would love to date you. Give yourself time to recover from your loss and let the dating begin.

Yah I guess that Helped.. But is there anymore someone could say cause well I have been well trying to just get over and you know I really like her and I've accepted that I want her to be happy so I have just let her be with this boyfriend of hers. But well I just can't help to feel horrible that a girl that well I've known for quiet some time and have real deep feelings for and to just ignore her and move on and well basically lose her? There has got to be other ways but ill stick to this as long as I can I guess?

Thanks for the help "Chippers" but I feel there's more to this..

You have invested so much emotionally its easy to see the disappointment at getting no return. Accept that you have done your best, and helped her through a difficult time. Good for you. Now its time to take care of yourself and leave her to her own life.

It won't let me rate you again talaniman, but WELL SAID, once again.

BUMMED OUT- You did the right thing by helping her, let her figure things out on her own now. She's obviously been through a tough time recently and she probably needs time to sort things out.

I think you're greiving right now and maybe why you think there is more to this. And maybe a little denial as well? When a relationship ends we go through a greiving process sort of like the 5 stages of dying because in essence the relationship has died. There's denial, anger, grief, bargaining, despair and acceptance. You put yourself out there for this girl, leaving you open and vulnerable. I agree with the others. You need to give yourself time and take care of yourself. Allow youreslf to greive and heal. Let yourself express how you feel and why.
Write her a note and tell her how you feel and how hurt you are. The object here is to tell her how you feel about the way things happened and not to expect a reply. That you were there for her and how her actions after the prom hurt you.
If she writes you back fine but at least you can tell her her actions were wrong. You didn't deserve the way she's treated you so far. That ignoring you and acting as if you don't exist. You deserve better and a little more courtesy and respect.
But like I said, don't be upset if she doesn't reply. At least you got your feelings out and that's what counts.

Thank you so much everyone.. I've actually just moved on and decided to see what has been added here and well I am going to write her a letter and I have decided to put down some of my emotions about the aftermaths of Prom. And I understand there are chances she won't reply but if she's the girl I believe she is she would reply and hopefully be saying sorry of some sort that she is acting the way she is.

I can't think you all enough.. but you know ill get on here occasionally to pass what you all told me on to people with the same problem..

Thanks