Hi, I'm 19, my fiancé is 26, at the time of are wedding he will be 27 and I will still be 19, am I to young to get married to him? He has already been married once before 3 years ago and has a 4 year old son... am I to young for this commitment? We have been living together for a year now and have been dating for a year and a half, is this to soon?

Only you can decide this one but you are only 19 and not yet lived.
Do you think that once your married you won't be able to do the things that your friends are doing at your age. There's so much out there for you to do.
Do you need to take this commitment just yet if you love each other it won't need a ring and paper to show this. Take each day as it comes and make things happen for you.

How do u personally feel about committing yourself to someone, taking his hand in marriage?

It seems to me that maybe you are a little unsure, or why else would you post it on here. I would have to say, that if he is a good person and worth loving for the rest of your life, then he should be a good enough person to be willing to wait until you feel you are ready. I hope that helps.. good luck

Angel hit the nail on the head. At 19 a person (especially a female) is not too young to get married. Its borderline but it depends on the person.

However, I believe that YOU are too young. The reason I believe that is because you are asking the question. If you weren't you wouldn't ask. You don't say how long you have been seeing your fiancé which might make a difference, but I think you are clearly concerned and should wait.

I think you should wait until you know its what you want with no questions or doubts.

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Originally Posted by mllsdawn

only you can decide this one but you are only 19 and not yet lived.
Do you think that once your married you wont be able to do the things that your friends are doing at your age. theres so much out there for you to do.
Do you need to take this commitment just yet if you love each other it wont need a ring and paper to show this. take each day as it comes and make things happen for you.

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Hope you will find happiness, when you know you are really ready to settle down. Do live before you do settle down. Good Luck.

I got married at age 19 and although I have been married almost 21 years I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. My husband and I still love each other and when this subject comes up we both agree that we should have waited. We have gone through some rough times that could have been avoided had we gone into marriage a little more mature.

The person I was at 25 is nearly the same as 40, but the change between 19 and 25 was dramatic! I don't think women have a chance to know what they want out of life and a life partner until they have had the chance to experience grown-up life a little. Allow yourself the time to be young! You won't get that chance again. You are looking at stepping into the role of wife and mother (step) and don't really have any practical hands-on life experience to draw upon.

You have plenty of time - take advantage of it.

I think based on the fact that you are asking this question yes, you are too young. You should know you want to and feel confident about getting married and you don't seem too sure.

If possible maybe push it back a little farther and take a bit more time to consider. Just an opinion though.

Mmmmmmmmmmmmm let me think, YES you are too young!! Have a look around, enjoy life go places and do things, do things that you want to do and when you are 25 and think you have done all the things that you can do before u settle down then and only then you will be not too young

I think 19, yes is young to get married, however saying that I meet my partner when I was 19. I was very much into him but enjoyed dating him also, so there is really no rush. Enjoy being together before you settle to get married, and commit yourselves to each other.

I prefare you remain as fiancé then attain a level of reasoning and educational independence.This will give you an added advantage to overcome and deal with maritial hurdles and stress.Marriage is very unpredictable try and think of divorce,think of how you are going to carry on.Are you ready to get into this life's commitment or you are just crazily in love with a youthful emotion.Please get ready 'for better or for worse'.

You are 19 and have so many great years ahead of you to live your life and discover who you really are. There is no rush, if he loves you and you love him, it can wait! At 19 you probably have not really even lived on your own yet and discovered your independence! Do you really want to marry him now and also have to raise or be a step parent to a 4 year old right now? He is 26 and light years ahead of you in both experience and years. Give it a year, live your life, join some activities and do some things for yourself. Are you in college? If not, you should be, it is a great way to challenge yourself and meet all kinds of people your age!