Hey, I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were best friends, I mean we did everything together and were so in love. I was the luckiest girl in the world. But a month ago, out of nowhere, he broke up with me.. I miss him more than anything.. I want him back.. Please help.. He's not a bad person, and he has a lot of other stuff going on his life, but he says I'm his best friend, who he tells everything to.. But I feel I've lost him completely. I have not seen him in a week, and have not talked to him in3days, and the last time we spoke, he made contact with me. How do I make him realise that he made a mistake and he needs me? Please, I love him.

I think you need to communicate with him how this is upsetting you, I would suggest getting back together and if not STOP being bestfriends, because this is killing you from inside, isn't it?

No he said he doesn't want me anymore.. I don't know what to do.. I love him and I know we can make it work.. Its too hard

Read over the board and read past questions and advice! If he says he doesn't want you then:

Its time to accept the harsh truth and start the transition to single life. Its hard but whatever doesn't kill us makes us stronger right? More wary in the future and aware what we are looking for in a relationship and a person.

Treat your relationship as a life experience, you might not be able to treasure the memories you had right now but one day you will. Do not regret but learn and move on, as someone much better is just around the next corner.

You must try follow these: (be strong)

1) Abide by no contact, ignorance is bliss so don't go near the 'grape vine'
2) Work on yourself entirely - hobbies, work, gym
3) Ever wanted to do something in your life? Nows the time
4) Spend more time with your friends and family and renew old social ties
5) Box every memory away and stay away from your fav songs for now - when you can look at it without feeling ill - Ur halfway there!
6) Time does heal :P It just takes a god dam while, but don't mope at home, go out, party, exercise - helps a hell of a lot

You don't need anyone to be happy.

The best revenge is to be happy yourself :]

I would do the NC and move on. The next couple months are going to be your hardest trust me I know, but the fact is he left you and if he wants to come back he'll be back. You can't make someone want to be with you.

I would just be his friend until he is ready to be in a relationship cause by what you have told us he is not ready for a relationship right now so just give it time and don't smother him or pressure him into anything because all that will do is push him away fomyou and I know you don't want that so just give him time for himself

Why did you break up after 3 years? What was going on in his life that was so truamatic?

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Originally Posted by xx-I-Miss-Him-xx

Hey, I was with my boyfriend for 3 years and we were best friends, I mean we did everything together and were so in love. I was the luckiest girl in the world. But a month ago, out of nowhere, he broke up with me.. I miss him more than anything.. I want him back.. Please help.. He's not a bad person, and he has a lot of other stuff going on his life, but he says I'm his best friend, who he tells everything to.. But I feel I've lost him completely. I have not seen him in a week, and have not talked to him in3days, and the last time we spoke, he made contact with me. How do I make him realise that he made a mistake and he needs me? Please, I love him.

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Ignore him... you realize what you have until its gone