My question is :should teenagers get married ? I think they should not.I need reasons why they should not get maried. Thanks

Mainly because they are not old enough to understand what type of commitment is involved, can not hold standard jobs and therefore can not afford housing ( or even rent if they aren't 18) and most often are only acting on lust... and raging hormones...

With marriage comes so many responsbilities that teens just cannot handle. Sooner, or later, but most likely sooner, a baby enters the world and life as they know it disappears. The added expenses, the nights of no sleep when the baby is sick, the finding the right daycare so parents can work, paying for daycare when money is tight, automobile expenses times two, and the list goes on. Are the teens going to further their education and get into college or are they going to make it on minimum wage for the rest of their lives? What happens after the lust fades? What happens if one is "too tired" or wants to sleep in on a day off or is too busy with work and household? The high school friends they once had? Who are they going to connect with now?

I can hear people say, "I was a teen and got married and have been married 20 years and all is well." Yes, that can certainly happen. I am glad for those people who made their marriage work. It is not easy work. How many adults looking back at their teen marriage say, "I was too young", "I didn't know what I wanted in life", "I didn't understand what I was getting into"?

Lets see there not mature enough, they need to be in school for they can get a full time job, they need to be kids and not have to worry about adult life and many many more.

Agrees with Lily - they also need to understand that standing on their own feet and not on their parent's two feet is part of being in an adult type relationship. It is easy to play house when Mom and Dad are there to bail them out.

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Originally Posted by taty

my question is :should teenagers get married ? i think they should not.i need reasons y they should not get maried. thanks

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Marriage is one hell of a commitment. Such a large commitment that you need to be 100% sure of what you want to do.
Marriage is a bond between 2 ADULTS, who are mature enough to handle good and bad.
Teenagers are just kids themselve, you should be out there having fun with friends, not committing themselves.

Wait a second, 'Teenager' spans a 7 year period! That's a little vague!

I don't think a couple of 14 year olds should get married, no, that's a bit too young!

But a couple of 17, 18 or 19 year olds? If the time is right and they really feel it's the thing to do, then why not? I think it's hard to draw a line and say 'Here it's OK, but here it's not!'

Life is one big learning curve, you're bound to make some mistakes along the way, why not make them young and get them out of the way!

Honestly,

There are some adults that should not even get married. Like the above post said, it is hard to draw a fine line somewhere. Each individual is at different maturity levels. There are some teenagers even young teenagers that are more mature then 30 years olds and the reverse is true.

Joe

My name is Shannon Bishop and I am a married teen. I have been married for a little over a year and I could not be happier. I know you don't think teens should get married and I can understand that to some degree. A teen should not get married because they are going to have a baby that is the wrong reason to start a marriage. Being married is about having responsibilities not only for yourself but for your spouse and your future children.You should get married because you are in love and only if you know that you will be able to support yourselves in the world. It needs to be well thought. You both need to make sure that everything will be OK if you get married and live on your own. I think that teens should get married but only if they are mature enough to take on the responsibilities.


Thanks,
Shannon Bishop