Ask Me Help Desk - Younger boyfriend with more friends

My boyfriend is 10 years younger than me and has several female friends. My friend base has lessened over the years and I no longer have male friends that are just hanging around. My boyfriend likes to talk to these females, one in particular, quite often. He has never given me a reason not to trust him. I am not like his friends at all (don't like the same music, or dress like them). How do I work this out without pushing him away?

I get sick to my stomach every time he makes plans with this one girl. They hang out for a whole day, not just lunch or a movie. Should I ask him to spend less time with her or just get over it?

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Originally Posted by canlovelast

my boyfriend is 10 years younger than me and has several female friends. my friend base has lessened over the years and i no longer have male friends that are just hanging around. my boyfriend likes to talk to these females, one in particular, quite often. he has never given me a reason not to trust him. i am not like his friends at all (don't like the same music, or dress like them). how do i work this out without pushing him away?

i get sick to my stomach every time he makes plans with this one girl. they hang out for a whole day, not just lunch or a movie. should i ask him to spend less time with her or just get over it?

Hey, I am in a similar situation. My girlfriend is 6 years younger and she hangs out more with her friends then I do with mine. Although she doesn't ever stay with guys 1 on 1 alone. She does stay with guys and her friends when they go clubbin and to bars. That I really do not mind much but I'm not sure how I would feel if she stayed with a guy all day long. I could tell you one thing If I tried that there is no way she would deal with that. Maybee you should try to talk to him and explain how you feel when he stays with her all day long. Was she around before you? How old is he? Hope all works out.

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Originally Posted by canlovelast

my boyfriend is 10 years younger than me and has several female friends. my friend base has lessened over the years and i no longer have male friends that are just hanging around. my boyfriend likes to talk to these females, one in particular, quite often. he has never given me a reason not to trust him. i am not like his friends at all (don't like the same music, or dress like them). how do i work this out without pushing him away?

i get sick to my stomach every time he makes plans with this one girl. they hang out for a whole day, not just lunch or a movie. should i ask him to spend less time with her or just get over it?

Your boyfriend should genuinely want to spend more time with you and not this friend of his.

Have u communicated this issue with him?

Hi There, I can relate! That is why I googled this and found this discussion. I am 33 and my boyfrind is 24. The other night we were watching a movie very late and at 2AM he is getting text messages from a girl who works with him and she is complaining about her love life. He laughed it off and voluntarily showed me the text. I found it inappropriate that the girl was texting at that hour with the context in which she was texting but I took comfort in him voluntarily showing me the text thread. I shrugged that one off, well, yesterday, I was looking forward to spending time with him because I'll be out of town this weekend and I have a VERY busy work week (I'm a young executive and he's a college student in his junior year). We grabbed a bite to eat and talked about finishing a movie we had started at my place. He said he wanted to go to his place first and then he'd come over. I asked if he had other plans to tend to, he said no, that he wanted to play XBox. I was totally fine with that, but then he said he'd come over and finish the movie first, then go home. From the moment we walked in my place and through-out he movie, he was texting. I find that rude, I don't text during meals with people or during movies, but I let it go on for a while until finally asking, "is everything ok? do you need to call someone?"... he said no, that it was a girl who he hasn't talked to in 2 weeks and he's trying to catch up with her via text. It continued through-out the movie and I was getting annoyed that he was missing the movie, so I suggested he call the girl, so they can get caught up and we can have our time watching the movie. He replied with, "I just want to text with her, we haven't talked in 2 weeks .. is it ok with you that I talk to a friend of mine? (sarcastic) Am I allowed to talk to my friends?". I replied with of course! I just explained that I don't do that and he replied that he wouldn't care if I did, so in the most childish way, I grabbed my phone and started responding to text messages during the movie like him. So childish, I know... and I realized this half-way through, thinking why am "I" doing this? The movie finished, he left my place and texted me at 11PM that he was finished with XBox and laundry. I was in bed and just texted, "cool" and he texted back, "very". That was it. I went to sleep. I like him a lot but I do not feel like a priority. I don't think it's appropriate to do the things he's doing but he doesn't see anything wrong with it. What should I do?