Hello,

I have been married to a marine for 5 years now. I did not know what I was getting into, but that internal clock was ticking since I was 30 so we got married. Anyway, we were having trouble before he went to Iraq. He came home and I got pregnant. During my pregnancy, he signed up for dating websites and hooked up with someone he met at a funeral. I confronted him and he was very defensive and told me he had not been happy since we got married. He was planning a new life with the girl he met and they were talking about raising our unborn child. Because I was sooo close to having the baby, I decided to try and seek counseling for us. He did not want to do more than one session. Prior to me getting pregnant, he was having porn addiction issues that only got worse during my pregnancy. Anyway, he also has anger issues and now that our daughter is going on 2 I want out. I don't want her to grow up in an environment where there is no love. We have reached a point that we are not sleeping in the same room we do not have any sexual encounters. All we do is fight and argue over stupid stuff. As a side note, I did not want kids and he wanted two, but he has not lifted one finger to help me with her or keeping our house up. He gets days off work and leaves her at daycare. I have had it and asked for a divorce. He told me everything was fine and he did not want a divorce. I feel my only option is to just up and leave. I need some thoughts or suggestions on my idea.

Thank You!

Is he still planning on having a life with that other women? Is he seeing the other women?

If so that you should divorce him. What adacity of him and this other women raising your child. That is so far fatched.

I would say get a divorce.


Joe

Remember thought this has to be your own decision at the end of the day. What is best for your child and you.

Leave him! You are obviously not happy and if you truly think that it's not a good environment for your child then that's the only thing left to do. I know it can be scary on your own and making such a huge step in your life but you will feel so much better once you have and once it's all over. Go find your happiness! You deserve it! Just make sure you do it in a smart way so that you end up with the child, receiving child support and make sure it doesn't turn into a dangerous situation. Also, unfortunately your daughter is old enough now to remember him and this will be hard on her but she'll learn to deal with it. Mine did and she's the happiest little kid ever, still talks about her father occasionally but doesn't put too much thought into it.

I agree with all the other responses.
The choice of course is yours but at the end of the day deep down u know the score! You know what you will get out of this man and that is unhappiness...

Move on, start afresh, just you and your little one, it may be struggle for you but in the long run it will be so worth it.

Good Luck