My son is now 23. He will graduate university this month. My ex. Thinks I should still pay Child Support to her, because he is continuing his education for his master. IS she right or can I stop paying after this month. I do not have a university degree and she dropped out of high school?? :confused:

If you listen to her you will be paying her for his children. You already paid 5 years beyound what anyone else does. Why were you giving her money wile he was in college? Why didn't you just pay some of his bills? Or give him money?

I would tell her... HAHA! She is very funny! I don't know of any state that has you to pay child support for a child while they are in grad school? That is crazy and apparently, your ex thinks you are too. (No offense) Unless you agreed to pay child support to her until he completed grad school, then I don't think you have any obligation to pay child support to her.

I do agree that you should still help out the son with college expenses, but not pay her!

Good Luck and God Loves You!

Though some states to include child support for a child if they are in school (ex: Mass), I believe this is only for the undergraduate degree. This is of course considering that you didn't agree (in divorce settlement/child support order) to continue support while child was in grad school. Personally, I wouldn't pay after graduation. She would have to get an attorney and take you to court for contempt to get ongoing support... which I strongly believe she could not get. As I state to others, many attorney's will give a free consultation. Take advantage of this to get more accurate advice on your specific situation. Now I just want to take a minute to say... thank you for paying your support. You can feel proud that you took care of your responsibilities like a man. It's refreshing to hear. Good luck. Cathy

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Originally Posted by 3127

My son is now 23. He will graduate university this month. My ex. thinks I should still pay Child Support to her, because he is continuing his education for his master. IS she right or can I stop paying after this month. I do not have a university degree and she dropped out of high school???:confused:

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Frankly, legally you have nothing to worry about. Here's an arguing point for you. When child support is calculated each parent is actually assigned a contribution amoutn. If the child lives with the mother, the father would "anti-up" his share, so to if the father had custody would the mother pay the father. This with the understanding that the custodial or parent who the child resides with already is contributing with a home, water, food, clothing and so forth. Now if the boy is 23, grown, living outside of your home and hers then it would only stand to reason that (1) you pay him, not her - and (2) she also give the child her monetary requirement.

Easy answer is this sir, you aren't obligated to, unless for some fool reason in the past you agreed to it, in court.

In the end what exactly does your divorce/child support agreement say. If you signed that you would pay for all his college education, they may have a case, if you signed to pay till he was a certain age or till out of college then it would normally end.

If you signed something that did not even have anything to say about it, she would have to try and file in court to force you to pay.

And if anything at this point, normally even after the point they are in college ( undergrad) and not living at home, you petition the court to pay the school or pay directly to the child not to the mother anymore anyway.

And I see no reason that you should not help pay HIM or his college for some of his education,

As stated above, check your divorce proceedings and the section on child support. No one here knows exactly what those terms are. But you can easily find out. Even if you are a messy record keeper, your attorney has a copy. Generally speaking, once the child is done with the college degree, the support would stop also. So check your divoirce papers. Good luck.