A girl, specifically. We've been friends since last year, and until like a month and a half ago we've been together, we would go out, I would give her advice whenever she had problems with her now ex-bf, hell, we once started to pretend we were boyfriend and girlfriend and did a lot of things besides that... I remember her saying I would make her feel peaceful and confident, something like that, and that made me happy, to know I made someone feel very nice.

I knew that I didn't really have feelings for this girl because I was getting to know someone at the same time and I liked her very much. This relationship isn't really working out by the way, but that's another story... this girl, my friend, was starting to drift away from me, she would go out with her friends (which happened to be my friends, I even introduced her to them!) and none of them would tell me, and she would do a lot of things that we used to do together on my own, even though she knew that I had time for anything even if I was going out with that other girl.

I got mad at her and stopped talking to her, and a couple of days later she would be in the classroom with me and she sent me 3 messages saying things like ''i'm so sorry please I don't want you to be mad at me'' etc and I talked to her and everything was ''ok'' until two weeks later when she started to ignore me, but I would avoid her as well, until one day we started to talk again, etc, next time she was all nice and stuff by day but at night she was the complete opposite... lately, like a month ago, she was making out with one of our classmates, just for ''fun'' and because he was hot and stuff, and that turned out to be a problem for both of them because the guy has a girlfriend, which I also happen to know, and she found out that they were making out, and there was this whole thing where everyone in 4 or 5 schools knew what was going on (they weren't the only ones making out, there was a couple having sex in there as well) and the girlfriend would ask me if I knew anything about it and I didn't want to say anything...

What made me feel really angry at that point was that I talked to the girl, to my friend, and she was telling me how bad she felt about doing that, and I told her that people knew that she was doing it and that everyone was spreading the word and stuff, and she was worried about that and her reputation, blah blah blah... the day after that chat she was talking to a lot of people who were involved in those things and mentioned the things I told her, they asked her to talk to me so I could give her more info on who was telling everyone about the incident, and she said something that I didn't get to hear, and sent another girl to ask me. I didn't say anything, and I told her to tell them they were f**ked up from the start and they should've known that was going to happen. I ignored her even more than before, because I was pissed at her and she happened to notice. The next two days were crazy, with her all over my cellphone, my MSN, asking me to forgive her for everything, that she didn't know what was going on with me and that she loved me and adored me, and that she wanted us to be friends because I understood her... I told her that she wasn't (and she still isn't) even the shadow of what she used to be, and that I wasn't sure about forgiving her for anything at all. She begged and begged until I gave her one last chance. Everything was fine, of course, not like the old times, until a week ago.

She starts to hang out again with the guy! And now she confesses to me (well, barely) that she loves him, and he had something going on with her and was cheating on his girlfriend at the same time, and the girlfriend is completely unaware of it... it hurts me that because of him, she isn't the same person around me or anybody else... and that she's trying to destroy something that was good already, we don't speak to each other like we used to, and because I was so worried about that, some people, probably even herself, think I'm in love with her... I'm moving forward, I feel like I have to, but what do I do with her if she tries to come back to me when she notices I'm not interested in her friendship (if it's going to be this way) anymore? Hell, how can I make her notice this?

Oh I sense the DRAMA...

If she comes begging for your friendship again, tell her that she has a lot of growing up to do and that a friendship with her brings with it too much drama which cramps your style... Tell her thanks, but no thanks...

Tell her the exact thing you are telling us now. I have a feeling that your mix of anger and sadness are driving you to think that she is not your friend. If you tell her like you are telling us right now then she will feel that you are so mad and frustrated at what she changed into. The fact is that she doesn't understand completely how you feel because she has nothing to compare it to. If you do so, you may hypothetically nudge her in the right direction because your anger and sadness are driving you and she will pick up on your emotions and realize that she is ruining something she once felt special to her. It is amazing how far you have come and tried to fix this. I also had to come to this site to resolve my problems.