What should I do?
We live in a small NEw England town. The police decided when my son was still very young, that he was going to be a trouble maker. When he was 13, they accused him of two crimes, one vandalism and the other theft. He did not have anything to do with either. That did not stop one of the officers from calling me to tell me I am a bad mother and needed to stop making excuses for my son who the police would be watching. WE basically had to prove that he was innocent (I though it worked the other way in the USA), but they did leave us alone.
Then my son drank some rum when he was 15 1/2. While this is illegal, it is certainly not unusual among the kids in town. Last year (he was 16 1/2) they accused him or furnishing alcohol to a minor. He was not drinking, but a friend of his was drunk. We had to get a lawyer and go to court where the whole thing was resolved easily.
The latest accusation is that my son spray painted a building with some other kids. Two of the kids have admitted to having done this and said that my son was not there, but the police banged on our door wanted him to come down and "tell the truth". That meant admit he had done the crime. As he didn't, we called our lawyer instead.
Thank God we can afford a lawyer, but I'm getting very sick of this.
Does any one have a similar experience? Any idea what we can do as my son will be living here for another year until he graduates from HS and goes to college. There is very little crime in our small town, but anytime anything goes wrong, my son is rounded up.