So my girlfriend and I had been together for 7 months and it was a long distance relationship. It was a serious relationship and we were planning on to be moving together etc. We had some arguments and after our break up like 2 months she unfriended me on Facebook and she found a new boyfriend and I was really jealous and upset so after I found out I messaged her on Skype and asking to be friend with her on Facebook and she said no because she's not comfortable to have me around her.

Then she blocked me on skype and Facebook but not instagram so I was trying to text her 1 more time on instagram asking her to forgive me and I wanted to be with her again but she said in an angry way that she has a boyfriend and she never want to see me or hear from me or be with me ever and then she blocked me on instagram and there's no way I can contact her.

A few days later she unblocked me on Facebook and she put her status in a relationship but that guy didn't put his status in a relationship with her it was before I was talking to her on skype to ask her if I can add her and after she unblocked me on Facebook for a week then she removed her relationship status out but I know who is her new boyfriend is and I see them like/heart their status/photos etc. so I'm not sure if she's playing games with me to make me jealous or she's completely moved on and yes I still love her but I'm in a confusing moment where I want to be with her or not.

If she has a new boyfriend and don't want to be with me or talk to me or hear or see me why wouldn't she just keep me blocked?

Why are you even checking up on her to know this? Get over her and move on... she has.

Gee, let me get out my crystal ball. I see an ex who wants to keep you around just in case the new bf doesn't work out. She at least had enough sense to realize that you couldn't handle being 'friends' after the breakup (you said "I was really jealous and upset" so what did you expect)! Maybe she's hurt that he didn't change his Facebook status for her, who knows. It's all unbearably teen-ish. You are acting teen-ish too. How old are you both?

PS: LDRs almost NEVER work out.

She is messing with you, wants to hurt you.

The issue is why have not deleted her from your Facebook, why do you still have her on your phone, in your skype and so on

You block her, you stop checking on her and get over it, and move on.

Have you meet in person ?

I doubt she is playing games with you. I think she is living her life.

I am not certain if she was the one who actually unblocked you. It could be another friend playing games or one of those infamous Fb glitches.

Did she unblock you or are you able to see some of her likes, posts, etc. because they on a mutual friend's wall or a mutual friend was involved in the post/thread?

I do agree that you need to move forward with your life. It doesn't matter if she is in a relationship or not. She has told you that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. That should tell you to get out and talk to other people. Stop trying to keep up with her life and build your own.

Stop hurting yourself.

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Originally Posted by joypulv

Gee, let me get out my crystal ball. I see an ex who wants to keep you around just in case the new bf doesn't work out. She at least had enough sense to realize that you couldn't handle being 'friends' after the breakup (you said "I was really jealous and upset" so what did you expect)! Maybe she's hurt that he didn't change his Facebook status for her, who knows. It's all unbearably teen-ish. You are acting teen-ish too. How old are you both?

PS: LDRs almost NEVER work out.

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Yeah I know but I have never in love with a girl like this before, she was a really good person I have ever met and I want to be with her and we both have our aren't perfect to each other sometimes. Basically she was trying to do everything for our relationship and I couldn't do it back so much to her due to family issues and we both were fighting to get together. She's 18 and I'm 20.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

She is messing with you, wants to hurt you.

The issue is why have not deleted her from your Facebook, why do you still have her on your phone, in your skype and so on

You block her, you stop checking on her and get over it, and move on.

Have you meet in person ?

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I'm trying to move on but out of the blue unblocked me on Facebook a few days later after everything she said that she never want to see me or hear from me or be with me ever again. I don't want to let her know that I know she has unblocked me nor I want her to know that I block her because I still care so I'm just trying to move on. We broke up 1 time in the past because she was in some health problems and mood swings as she told me then she told me she's going to therapy and stuff and we were back together but this one is different. I was being insecure so because of her best friend doesn't like me for some reasons which I don't know why and I broke up with her this time because I couldn't take it and everything I say mostly make her mad. I mean if she really hates me or don't want to see me why not just keep me blocked? There's no reason to make me see her new relationship and hurt me like that while I'm trying to move on here. There's a lot more but I want to keep it as short as possible. She offered to visit me but I couldnt cuz of my family issues.

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Originally Posted by Cat1864

I doubt she is playing games with you. I think she is living her life.

I am not certain if she was the one who actually unblocked you. It could be another friend playing games or one of those infamous Fb glitches.

Did she unblock you or are you able to see some of her likes, posts, etc. because they on a mutual friend's wall or a mutual friend was involved in the post/thread?

I do agree that you need to move forward with your life. It doesn't matter if she is in a relationship or not. She has told you that she doesn't want to be in a relationship with you. That should tell you to get out and talk to other people. Stop trying to keep up with her life and build your own.

Stop hurting yourself.

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I'm sure she did unblock me on her own after a few days later she told me to leave her alone. She also was putting a relationship status on her info but then after a week she has unblocked me she just take it away and I couldn't see it anymore so I don't know if she's not putting public anymore and just for her friends to see or what and I only checked her Facebook a week since then so I'm assuming she has been checking my Facebook profile as I have been posting some pictures of myself? And yes I do want to move on and I'm still trying to heal myself because I still think of her and I'm trying really hard to forget her but out of the blue when she unblocked me it kind of triggered me why would she do that? She could have kept me blocked.

"There's no reason to make me see her new relationship and hurt me like that while I'm trying to move on here."

YES THERE IS. YOU KEPT CONTACTING HER VIA OTHER SITES.
She might feel a need to throw cold water on you any way she can, such as proving that she has a boyfriend.

We can only GUESS. You know more than we do. But that's how breakups work - there are no rules that require that you get an explanation, or more time to end it the way you want to, or plead your case one last time, or say that you have changed, or can change.... etc etc etc....

Have you ever met this person?

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Originally Posted by joypulv

"There's no reason to make me see her new relationship and hurt me like that while I'm trying to move on here."

YES THERE IS. YOU KEPT CONTACTING HER VIA OTHER SITES.
She might feel a need to throw cold water on you any way she can, such as proving that she has a boyfriend.

We can only GUESS. You know more than we do. But that's how breakups work - there are no rules that require that you get an explanation, or more time to end it the way you want to, or plead your case one last time, or say that you have changed, or can change.... etc etc etc....

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You are right but after a week she took her "In a Relationship" off" so that makes me wondering why. I do miss her and I just wanted to have an idea of what she's probably doing. I do and have accepted its over. I'm going full NC with her but I'm just thinking that I shouldn't block her to give her the power or think that i still care and just sit tight and move on and pretend that I don't know she has unblocked me.

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Have you ever met this person?

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No we haven't met but were planning to.

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You are right. I do miss her and I just wanted to have an idea of what she's probably doing. I do and have accepted its over. I'm going full NC with her but I'm just thinking that I shouldn't block her to give her the power and just sit tight and move on and pretend that I don't know she has unblocked me.

No we haven't met but were planning to.

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GET OVER THIS " I NEVER MET PERSON! You were going to move in together? You need a real local person, not an online possible fake.

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If she has a new boyfriend and don't want to be with me or talk to me or hear or see me why wouldn't she just keep me blocked?

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She is letting you torture yourself until you get the hint, and leave her alone by cutting all contact with her social media. YOUR healing cannot begin until you do, so I suggest you take the hint!

Just blocking you didn't work did it?

Stalking charges are surprisingly easy to make... And effective for all but the most hard core stalkers once law enforcement and legal fees start mounting. Some people don't get the message until that happens. Look at how easy that line for rape can be to cross. after a few drinks by both parties.


Take the hint....forget her, move on..don't look back.