Hi I Have A 17 Year Old Daughter Who Has Moved In With He Boyfriend And Now She Is Pregnant. Her Boyfriend Doesn't Want The Baby And Tells Her That If She Has The Baby He Is Going To Leave Her. He Wants For Her To Get An Abortion. She Doesn't Want To Get An Abortion. She Wants To Keep The Baby. But Then She Doesn't Want To Lose The Boyfriend Because She Loves Him.. The Boyfriend Says It Is My Responsibility To Make Sure She Get An Abortion Because She Is Not 18 Years. So Therefore She Has No Say So. I Think He Is Totally Gone Crazy. Because I Am Not Going To Make Her Do Anything She Don't Want To. She Is So Confused At This Time And I Don't Know What To Do. I Wish I Could Take All This Pain And Sorrow From Her. I Want To Put A Restraing Order Against Him But She Might Not Obey It. He Is Always Telling Her To Leave Him Alone. They Fight Like Crazy. I Am Going Crazy Myself I Don't Know What To Do

Ok... DON'T let her get and abortion if she doesn't want to... She will hate herself forever... Get a restraining order... how old is he? If he is over 18 then get him for Rape... She is 17 you are her mom make her come move home. If it takes force then get it. I mean this is your little girl. The baby shouldn't pay because the father is a jerk!

I agree I got pregnant at a early age too 16 and my b/f and his parents presserd me into getting an abortion before my parents ever knew... I have to live with it every day trust me from experience abortion is hard that was 5 years ago and I still have night mares about it... restraining order I don't know about that one... I think I wouldn't get one untilu see how he is going to act... then take further action I would be working on child suppot though... if he really does love her he will stay by her side...

It is your responsibility to make sure that your daughter makes her own decision without the pressure of a so called not of an boyfriend.

The boyfriend has no right to demand to you or your daughter to get an abortion. Why does she love a guy that is emotionally and physically abusive. That is what it comes down to.

She is better off without this a@@hole. I think you should encourage her to do what is best for her and in your opinion she is better off without this boyfriend because he does not really love her if he is trying to force her to kill her own baby, and getting you involved in it as well.

Joe

This is going to be one of the biggest decisions of your daughter's life. It's time for what you always knew you would have to do... hold her, support her, let her decide. She is too old for you to make this decision. Why are you listening to anything this guy has to say if he hurts your daughter. You cannot get a restraining order unless he has threatened to harm you. It would only further alienate your daughter right now anyway.

I myself have had to go through this in the past 2 yr. I now have a beautiful grand-daughter and her boyfriend split long ago. He calls occasionally to harass her and she takes it. All I can do is support her in healthy decision making.

At 17 you have the right to stop her living with him. She may need you to step in so she can get some time to think about her decision. Parenting is hard and can be hurtful. In the end... she is your daughter and you don't want her to hurt. Making an informed, non-pressured decision is the best gift you can give her. Cathy

It is completely up to her on what she wants to do. If she wants to keep the baby then keep it but explain to her how hard life will be. But don't let her abort the baby just because her boyfriend doesn't want it, the guy sounds like a huge jerk anyway. And if she aborts it just for him it's something she may regret for the rest of her life. Whatever she does just make sure its for the right reasons. Its her decision and hers alone. The fact is if the guy doesn't want it and treats her like that already he's not a good guy to be with anyway. I had my daughter at the age of 17 and my boyfriend wanted me to abort her also, he even tried to kill himself on numerous occasions because I wouldn't abort. In the end I am not with him (even though I still do love him) and I'm better off. I have my bad days just like everyone else but in the end I am very happy with my decision, hopefully your daughter will be too. Also, if she does keep it she is going to need A LOT of help from you, so the best advice I can give you is to just be there for her in whatever decision she makes.

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Originally Posted by brazygirl08

Ok.... DON'T let her get and abortion if she doesn't want to... She will hate herself forever... Get a restraining order... how old is he? If he is over 18 then get him for Rape... She is 17 you are her mom make her come move home. If it takes force then get it. I mean this is your little girl. The baby shouldn't pay because the father is a jerk!!

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Getting him for rape is one of the worst things you could do. All that would accomplish is driving a wedge between you and your daughter, and odds are she would wind up hating you for it. Also I would wait on a restraining order. Remember if she decides to keep it you'll be stuck with him for the rest of your lives so try to play nice. Forcing your daughter to do anything will only make things worse. It has to be her decision, she'll do what she thinks is right and if she's ready to come home she will.

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Originally Posted by Beachgrl

Getting him for rape is one of the worst things you could do. All that would accomplish is driving a wedge between you and your daughter, and odds are she would wind up hating you for it. Also I would wait on a restraining order. Remember if she decides to keep it you'll be stuck with him for the rest of your lives so try to play nice. Forcing your daughter to do anything will only make things worse. It has to be her decision, she'll do what she thinks is right and if she's ready to come home she will.

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The reason I said that is because he is playing mean already! It sounds as if he may mistreat her daughter. Maybe even turn abusive if not already :( I just don't like to see people get hurt!

WHY is your 17 yr old daughter LIVING with her BOYFRIEND?? It seems that is where the problems started?

I was married and pregnant at 16 yrs old. I had worthless parents that didn't care. I divorced at 19 with two children. If I can do it, so can she!

SHe needs some time away from her boyfriend... maybe talking to her, and seeing if she is willing to live at home again for a few weeks, get her head on straight, and maybe this guy's too, but he doesn't seem to care about your daughter at all at this moment. But she could use some time to think, and make a decision, and get her self esteem and independence back... that is your job as her mother to help her do that... not make her decisions for her. She can do that on her own with some good support! SOunds like you are able to provide that for her... she needs a strong arm beside her, and that sounds like it is going to be you. :)

That guy her baby should come before eny man well boys come and go like seasons but a person growing inside of you dosent:)