I was just wondering if you can help me...


I am constantly lying to my boyfriend and another frined that I am close to about things that have happened to me that are VERY bad... but they never happened..

I am lying for sympathy.. I just love the feeling of having someone there to comfort me I guess you can say, but I don't know what to do because I don't want to worry the people I love

Maybe I am a pathological or compulsive liar.. but I don't know I just really need help on what to do and how to stop it because I'm afraid it will get even worse

A true friend likes you for who you are regardless of what happened to you. You must work on building self confidence in order to stop repeated lies. Every one is talented and unique in their own ways. Learn to love yourself and you WILL stop the lies.

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Originally Posted by megggggie

i was jsut wondering if you can help me...


i am constantly lieing to my boyfriend and another frined that i am close to abotu things that have happend to me that are VERY bad...but they never happend..

i am lieing for sympathy..i just love the feeling of having someone there to comfort me i guess u can say,,but idk what to do because i dont want to worry the ppl i love

maybe i am a pathological or compulsive liar..but idk i just really need help on what to do and how to stop it because im afraid it will get even worse

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I agree with Rina _4 love yourself for who you are!
I have a friend that also is like you and I've learnt to take everything she says with a pinch of salt but you end up losing the trust.
A true friend will love you for who you are. Just be honest with yourself and others and take that waight of you shoulders. It will end up running you down.
Hope you get you self sorted.

You need to get help, and quickly. Check out a community counseling center. If there is a crisis hotline in your city/town, call it and get a referral.

Lying for sympathy will become a hard habit to break if you allow it to go on.
It won't be long before your friends discover that you've been crying wolf.

If you are finding it difficult for yourself to make good, positive efforts that would bring you a more fulfilling type of attention, then possibly you should seek the help of a counselor in order to help you sort through your feelings of needing sympathy.

Kae

You can tell people the truth about your feelings - that you feel sad, you feel down, you feel like giving up - and people can comfort you. You can be yourself and ask for comfort. Why is it that you feel like giving up? Giving up on yourself? Your life? Know that things can be worked out. What has happened that you feel like giving up? If you need comfort and sympathy then you may well have something in your life that is hurting you. Something that you are not recognizing. You have found that lying is one way of getting your needs met. This is about finding out how you and others can comfort you while staying real.