I have meet a lady on myspace and she has lost 3 kids a little boy and a set of twin girls the boy was about 2 years ago he only lived a couple of hours and the twins one lived 3 days and the other only an hour. What can I do to help her through this time? I just feel so sorry for her. Two years ago I almost lost my son and I just noticed what a blessing children are. He was in NICU for 18 days but now you would never know. Anyway let me know ways I can help and if you would keep her and her husband in your prayers to that would help also.

Has she had a chance to talk to other mothers that have lost children? I know it helps me to talk to someone that has endured a struggle and survived.

You have my prayers, God Bless.

There are many online sites that may help. I used forums similar to this one after I miscarried, and after I was a surrogate for my sister...

That is a very sad story. I know how she must feel. I was pregnant with identical twins and they were born 3 months premature, one living and one stillborn. My son was in the NICU for 30 days before he passed away. They had a rare genetic disorder as well as twin to twin transfusion. THis was the hardest time of my LIFE. I took two months off from my job and essentially cried for two straight months. Some days I couldn't get out of bed. We had a wonderful nurse who cared for my son for those 30 days and she was a great support for me and continued to be so for the next few years. My family was great but they didn't really understand the pain. I would have to say that I am still not over it but I have come to terms with it. We went on to have two miscarriages after that. We now have two beautiful healthy children.

The best advise I can give is to be supportive, be there for her when she needs you and just listen to her. Don't offer advise, just listen. A friend of mine called me two months after I lost my boys and told me she was pregnant with twins, it just devastated me and to this day I can't seem to forgive her for not waiting a little longer to share the news.

The hospital where she delivered may have a bereavement counselor. My sister-in-law is an RN and she did that kind of counseling for several years. She had to transfer over to lactation consultant for a few years because it is very emotionally demanding.