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Why hasn't she called?

I went on a date with a girl one week ago. It was our first date and it was a Saturday night. It seemed to go well. I texted her afterward to make sure she got home OK. She texted me back thanking me for the drink and that she was looking forward to next time. I told her I'd call her later in the week. So I called her the following Tuesday night. She didn't answer so I left her a message asking if she was free that Saturday night, and to call or text me when she was free. It's now Saturday and I haven't heard from her.
Am I overanalyzing this? I know it's only been 4 days, but why would she say she was looking forward to our next date but not get back to me sooner. Not even a text to say she got my message.
By the way, I met her on a dating website. She messaged me first.
Thanks for the help.

She did not get your message?

You did not follow up with a text?

Sad, but lot of girls say, looking forward to next time, (to be nice) and what they mean is drop dead you were the scum of the earth.

Some females actually won't chase a guy, so CALL her and see when she is free. Maybe a second date of drinks isn't what she wants.

It could be she is not interested or she has started dating someone else. Call her one more time and if you still get no response, walk away.

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Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

She did not get your message?

You did not follow up with a text?

Sad, but lot of girls say, looking forward to next time, (to be nice) and what they mean is drop dead you were the scum of the earth.

I find it interesting that women say they want honesty and yet they can't give it. I'd rather have a non-answer than a dishonest "I'm looking forward to seeing you again."

Call again or go visit her home on Saturday evening
Reasons of her not replying can be many
1- she is not intrested in u
2- she's intrested in someone better
3- u made some mistake and don't know about it
My thinking ism you should have called her to ask if she reaced home safely and also called her next morning
Girls want your attentin 24/7 and you failed at it
And can I ask about you and your girlfriend give me some details so I can help

The thing about online dating, even after a great date, you can get online and try to get a better one. Maybe that's what she did, and what you should do. Dating is about having fun getting to know someone to see if more can develop. You had fun, but it didn't develop for whatever reason so why get sour over this disappointment? Lumping all females into the same category does no good, but if the words and actions don't match then you simply get back on line and try your luck, AGAIN, instead of being sour and dwelling on the lack of a call back.

You got a date with her, you will get another, so do so, and NEVER, EVER, take rejection or failure as a personal thing, and let it hold you back from trying again... ASAP!

I find it interesting that guys looking for girls would so easily get stuck on rejection/failure in whatever form it comes. Personally I wouldn't have put much stock in her hopeful words about a second date, nor would have waited all week to get a date for the weekend. I hope you learned from this experience and adjust your thinking a bit if you intend to keep looking for dates, be they online, or in person.

I mean the time it takes to figure out this one female, could have been used to chase another, or MANY. LOL, I have to admit I have told a few girls in my time what a great time I had, but NEVER called back, but it's all good, and anyone is entitled to change their mind about another for whatever reason, without further explanation... and yes, that includes you.

I wouldn't waste another minute on this one.

There can be many reasons of her not replying, some good and some not so good.

Probable reasons.

1. She is not interested anymore.
2. She is not interested anymore and found someone better for her.
3. Her response was just a lie and was not at all interested to continue.
4. She is unable to respond you, maybe because of technical, emotional or such reasons.

You met her online and date. Try to call her one more time to be sure. If she still does not apply, then don't worry at all! She was not worth your attention and go for a better one next time and not make the same mistake (if you have made any).

Also, WHY ARE PEOPLE REFERRING THIS GIRL WITH ALL THE FEMALES. NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT. I am a woman and don't believe that if a man makes mistake then not all men would be like that. It is poor to see such disappointing assumption.

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Originally Posted by talaniman

The thing about online dating, even after a great date, you can get online and try to get a better one. Maybe that's what she did, and what you should do. Dating is about having fun getting to know someone to see if more can develop. You had fun, but it didn't develop for whatever reason so why get sour over this disappointment? Lumping all females into the same category does no good, but if the words and actions don't match then you simply get back on line and try your luck, AGAIN, instead of being sour and dwelling on the lack of a call back.

You got a date with her, you will get another, so do so, and NEVER, EVER, take rejection or failure as a personal thing, and let it hold you back from trying again... ASAP!

I find it interesting that guys looking for girls would so easily get stuck on rejection/failure in whatever form it comes. Personally I wouldn't have put much stock in her hopeful words about a second date, nor would have waited all week to get a date for the weekend. I hope you learned from this experience and adjust your thinking a bit if you intend to keep looking for dates, be they online, or in person.

I mean the time it takes to figure out this one female, could have been used to chase another, or MANY. LOL, I have to admit I have told a few girls in my time what a great time I had, but NEVER called back, but it's all good, and anyone is entitled to change their mind about another for whatever reason, without further explanation... and yes, that includes you.

I wouldn't waste another minute on this one.

Thanks for the perspective! I texted her again and she texted back a few days later saying she'd been busy and wanted to go out again. I'll make sure to just have fun and take it in stride.

Why is she your only dating option?

She was trying to be polite, but is not interested. Move on to the next first date. And don't get so invested - best not to waste time on multiple dates with the wrong person.

Forget about the girl... she just said that as a nice way of saying that she doesn't want to see you again. Move on to the next girl.