Girlfriend's confused and this is hurting me. Should I end It?
Well, I am 21 and merely by choice, I've never been in a serious relationship before. But in the last three months and a half, I met this quite young girl (she's only 18), extremely good looking, taller than me, smart and quite mature for her age. We got to know each other and immediately started dating. I fell for her.
Everything was perfect between the two of us, we would see each other everyday (which I think now was a big mistake, well, she seemed happy with It), and when we were together, she would be always lovely and caring, and the sex was great. The problem was that when we were not together, she would rarely call or text me, let alone ask me to come over. I had to do all this myself, and of course I wouldn't feel comfortable with It. And there was this female best friend of her's, that she liked her so much that I sometimes felt like a mere second option. It sucked. That aspect of her not “pursuing” me (phoning, texting etc) that I mentioned earlier improved a little, but three weeks ago she started to act cold and moody, and one day she asked me to come over and we broke up, I didn't question It, acted indifferent, and just went home. I didn't talk to her in the break up period.
In that period, things went really downhill. Both my mother and hers had an argument over our break up and they stopped talking to each other. My ex-girlfriend then messaged me saying she missed me and wanted me back. I gave her a second chance. We met the day after and had great sex. Everything was OK, when two days later she suddenly messages me on Whatsapp and says that It will be hard for her to date me now since mine and her mother won't talk to each other and that she can't even come to my house anymore. I said that I still could go to her house and her mother – despite what happened between our families -, still liked me and I could go to her house as I normally did. She then said It wasn't enough. I confronted her about her feelings about me and that If she really indeed liked me, she would be willing to fight for our relationship together.
She then said that she “needed time”, and that she no longer knew what she wanted. I gave It to her. For over a week we had no contact. In that one week period, her mother told me she was moving on, then at the end of the week, since I thought I had nothing to lose, I sent her a message asking If It really was over. She said: "I don't know" and that she "Likes me very much"; and while texting, since she was near by, we met, then kissed a few times, and I asked to her face: "Is It over?" and she wouldn't answer. Didn't say a word and changed subject. If that's important info, in our meeting, she acted very lovely and caring, like she always did.
And then yesterday she changed her Whatsapp's status two times and they read the following, first: "My heart is a mess", and second: "There's two types of endings: happy endings and endings that are necessary".
What's with this girl? Does she want me to humiliate and beg for her to love me? I will never do that. She can't even make a decision.
I know our families don't get along anymore and her mother is trying to persuade her to not get back with me (she told me she doesn't want her daughter dating anyone anymore), but If she likes me as she says, would she follow her mother's advice?
Should I confront her about her Whatsapp's status? Give her a ultimatum? Or just stop communication with her and quietly move on? I really like her but I tired of all this.
Thank you.