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A little confused...

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Okay so me and my fiancé have been together for 6 months. We have unprotected s*x all the time.. He has a low sperm count so we thought we would be okay. Well now I missed my period, and I have a lot of weird things going on. My cervix is VERY high and soft and open. It started high when I was ovulating and it was open. Then it stayed up there for a few days, but was very hard and closed. It went down for about a day or two, then shot right back up there. And it's now like this.. (My fiancé points out those things.) I have a few other things. Frequent urination, constipation, missed period, MOODY, sore breasts and nipples(nipples look darker and around then are really brown and dark veins), nauseous, and tired! Very tired. Me and my fiancé had s*x around my ovulation, and he ejaculated inside of me then fingered me right after (like 3 nun after) so I ask.. Could I be pregnant? High? Low chance? Please help.

You have had unprotected sex, a low sperm count does not mean no pregnancy, it just means lower chance. But it is very possible, so of course you could be pregnant, it only takes one sperm out of 1000's and 1000's. So if he has only 1/2 or even only 1/10th, pregnancy can happen.

Really? Maybe knowing a little more about how things work would be better for your relationship.

Of course you can be pregnant. Does it matter if the odds are high or low? You are still 100% pregnant, even if the odds were one in a thousand. There's no way to calculate odds anyway, because there are countless variables.
Your fiance's exams of your cervix are not telling you anything, nor are your more outward symptoms. Pregnancy, menstruation, missed period, hormone fluctuations all are the same at first.
You have proof of his low sperm count?

ANY time you have penile insertion, there is the risk of pregnancy. You can reduce the risks, but not eliminate them.

Your symptoms could be due to many things, but it is too soon for them to be due to pregnancy. The first physical manifestation of pregnancy is a missed period. So you should wait until a week or more after you miss your period to take a pregnancy test.

So he's been to a fertility clinic to have his sperm count measured?

Why are you checking your cervix?

The first symptom of pregnancy is a missed period. Have you missed yours yet?

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Originally Posted by lovebug9137523

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I have a few other things. Frequent urination, constipation, missed period, MOODY, sore breasts and nipples(nipples look darker and around then are really brown and dark veins), nauseous, and tired! Very tired. Me and my fiancé had s*x around my ovulation, and he ejaculated inside of me then fingered me right after (like 3 nun after) so I ask.. Could I be pregnant? High? Low chance? Please help.

As has been said, you could be pregnant.

When were you expecting your period? If it was more than two weeks ago, get a home pregnancy test. Follow the directions. If negative, wait a week and test again. If you miss a second period, see a doctor.

You might consider seeing your doctor about birth control and a pregnancy test.

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We have unprotected s*x all the time..

That's a great way to get pregnant!

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He has a low sperm count so we thought we would be okay.

Are you crazy? It only takes one and with unprotected sex all the time, the chances are still great to get pregnant!

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Well now I missed my period, and I have a lot of weird things going on.

You take a proper test, and see a doctor for a test if needed. How much have you missed your period by? After about a week or two take a test.

The rest of the weird stuff could be anything, since neither of you seems to know much about the human body. Yes guys get sore constipated and tired too. They have even made babies with low sperm counts.

I'm sorry that I missed the missed period part. So yes, you could indeed be pregnant. Try taking a test using first morning urine. Cervical exams should be done by a professional only.

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Originally Posted by lovebug9137523

TMI WARNING!

Okay so me and my fiancé have been together for 6 months. We have unprotected s*x all the time.. He has a low sperm count so we thought we would be okay. Well now I missed my period, and I have a lot of weird things going on. My cervix is VERY high and soft and open. It started high when I was ovulating and it was open. Then it stayed up there for a few days, but was very hard and closed. It went down for about a day or two, then shot right back up there. And it's now like this.. (My fiancé points out those things.) I have a few other things. Frequent urination, constipation, missed period, MOODY, sore breasts and nipples(nipples look darker and around then are really brown and dark veins), nauseous, and tired! Very tired. Me and my fiancé had s*x around my ovulation, and he ejaculated inside of me then fingered me right after (like 3 nun after) so I ask.. Could I be pregnant? High? Low chance? Please help.

Low sperm count means there is still sperm. This is much more sperm then pulling out and pulling out isn't a viable form of birth control. The fact is you're not practicing ANY form of birth control what so ever. So the chances of getting pregnancy are high. Inserting fingers after ejaculating or anything else won't lessen the chances of impregnation significantly.

How late are you on your period? Everything you described is a symptom of PMS or illness. Wait until you're about two weeks late and then take a home pregnancy test with your first urination of the day, it is concentrated and will give you the best result .

Good luck.

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Originally Posted by CravenMorhead

Inserting fingers after ejaculating or anything else won't lessen the chances of impregnation significantly.

. It is actually said to increase the chances as these actions "push" the sperm up the vaginal canal faster than letting nature take its course.

In the 60s and 70s, 'Our Bodies Ourselves' days, womens' groups would buy plastic speculums and we'd look at each other's cervixes with flashlights. A few women would show up right after sex, and theirs would look a little bruised sometimes, and not from rough sex. One I recall was still leaking semen.

Well not much left to be said... except are you hoping for a boy, girl, twins, triplets?

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Originally Posted by joypulv

In the 60s and 70s, 'Our Bodies Ourselves' days, womens' groups would buy plastic speculums and we'd look at each other's cervixes with flashlights. A few women would show up right after sex, and theirs would look a little bruised sometimes, and not from rough sex. One I recall was still leaking semen.

Now THAT'S a little too much TMI!