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  • Apr 12, 2007, 10:48 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Girl I love has boyfriend
    I met this girl last year and spent every day with her (I was a 8th grader, so I practically saw her everyday). I began to grow more and more attracted to her, but when I went to make a move, she pulled the were too good of friends b.s... so in anger and such I dated another girl immediately after she told me that.. well eventually I apologized for dating the girl like I did and ignoring her like a kindergardener. She told me that she thought about going out with me, but was "scared". Well this year she goes to a new school, but I hung out with her this past nov. She came over for about 8 hours and eventually went home after an amazing day. 3 days later she agreed to go out with a guy, and not even tell me (were "friends" as she said, so I would assume she would tell me).. Well I tried hanging out with her multiple times while she is still going out with her boyfriend so I could at least have a chance to talk to her and such.. (he goes to girls houses too, so don't find it as I'm a ) but every time she screws me over at the last minute, only to go to her boyfriends house.. If the way I feel for this girl is love, then I've deeply fallen into it.. WHAT TO DO?
  • Apr 13, 2007, 08:10 AM
    manimuth
    If she wanted to be with you, she would've been, by now. She's had more than enough opportunities to be with you but she has chosen to be with another boy. So, unfortunately, I don't think she feels about you the way you feel about her.

    So, as hard as it is to realize that, now you have to pull away and move on. There is no point hanging around her while she dates other boys hoping that she will go out with you. That is a waste of your time, emotion, and life. You can be spending that time and energy meeting other wonderful girls so let it go and move on.

    Leave her alone for a bit so that you can heal your feelings and move on with your life.
  • Apr 16, 2007, 06:51 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    It is very hard to do but I will try
  • Apr 17, 2007, 08:33 PM
    LuvMyMaltipoo
    You probably scared her, you two are a little young to be so serious. She's probably never had a serious boyfriend and when you tell her you love her she probably gets scared because she doesn't even know what love is.
  • May 7, 2007, 07:46 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Girl with boyfriend no longer has boyfriend
    You may have read my earlier post about this girl I really like who has a boyfriend. Well she recently broke up with him and was crying on the phone when I talked to her, she was very upset and I comforted her as much as possible, I told a couple funny stories that had happened to lighten her mood and she stopped crying and was laughing, which told her to tell me to call her the next day. So when she said "call me tomorrow" I was like cool, maybe a friend is exactly what she wants and eventually, if careful, could lead to something more. Well I called her the next day, and she said h/o ill call you back, but she didn't and left me hangin for the rest of the day. So I texted her a little bit, but no answer. I was busy for a little while and decided she best not be bothered. Well this weekend I saw a movie with the guys, and I had already seen the movie with her, so I decided to call her. She answered like hello? I was like hey what's up its me I'm on someone else's phone. She was like oh.. hey? I was like guess what movie I'm seeing? What? DISTURBIA. Well why are you telling me this? I was like because we saw it together. And she was like oh.. haha.. cool. I was like OK just come out and tell me you hate me, that would be easier. Well I found out she was with this guy and I guess she was too embarrassed to talk to a dork like me while he was with her.
  • May 7, 2007, 08:13 PM
    missb
    Your not a dork.that was nice of you to talk to her and make her laugh in her time of need... she shouldn't have told you to call if she wasn't going to answer or made plans to be with someone else.
  • May 7, 2007, 10:56 PM
    chuff
    She just sees you a friend. As wrong as this is for women to think this when you comfort her after her break up that's something her girlfriends would do. I understand your trying to help while show her that you're a good guy but that's not how she sees it. Furthermore, calling her to tell you that your seeing the same movie you saw together is something her friends would do. Your acting like a friend and your getting one.
  • May 7, 2007, 11:26 PM
    Queenbeewisdom75
    If she's going to play games like this you need to drop kick her to the curb because you deserve better than to just be someone she can come to when she wants to dump on someone and act silly like this.
  • May 8, 2007, 02:12 AM
    Jiser
    She's just broken up with her BF, she will need time to get over it all before embarking on another relationship. Keep it cool for now, slow down, just be a friend, after a few months maybe see where that takes you. Good luck
  • May 8, 2007, 02:36 AM
    TrueFaith
    Don't think of yourself as a Dork my friend.. that's one thing your not.. your caring for someone that's a very hard thing to do.. its hard to be true to our feelings.. but we must not let them control us.. its one of the hardist things to do in this life.. I should know I'm fighting with them myself at this time ;) its never easy.. but I think you should step back from her give her space.. and see if she comes to you.. if so let it be.. but I think she is just assume you will call her all the time.. and your very stayble.. no one wants to be like that.. well at least not when your trying to find someone :)

    Anyway man give her space.. and don't think your less then her.. just think of yourself as something greater.. and you don't need other people in your life to make you happy.. all you need is yourself. If you act like that.. you will be a lot better off and you will find people willing to share in your own happines :)
    Take care man hope it works out for you

    With Regards
  • May 8, 2007, 06:19 AM
    talaniman
    She sees you as a friend because that's the way you presented yourself. As a rule leave a person who just got out of a relationship alone or you'll be in friendzone automatically. Back off and give her space and go after your own life that you enjoy for now.
  • May 8, 2007, 02:43 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Well the whole being a friend thing is what the other kid did, the kid who she went with when I saw a movie with her was a person that comforted her a lot, so either he's WAYYY in the friend zone or he got a really fun night.
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:21 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Girl is moving away
    My girlfriend (well not exactly girlfriend, but pretty damn close) is moving like 500 miles away, and I won't get to see her, maybe twice a year, but I wanted to do soemthing nice before she went away. So I got 2 pictures of me and her and put them in a picture frame, but I need a poem. Or some type of saying to go around the border. If anybody knows of any good poems about a girl moving away that would help tremendously
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:25 PM
    nicespringgirl
    What language would u like the poem be in?
    First of all.
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:26 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    GUESS
    No I'm just messing with you. English please.
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:34 PM
    nicespringgirl
    LOL I was messing up with you.:D

    People so seldom say I love you And then it's either too late or love goes. So when I tell you I love you, It doesn't mean I know you'll never go, Only that I wish you didn't have to.

    Use pink, I know u don't like the color but she does!
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:39 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Well the pictures are going to be in black and white just like the frame. So its going to be in bright silver, but if you have any more in store, it's a ?decently? Big frame and there's a lot of space, so that one was perfect, I have this... can miles truly separate you from friends? If you love someone, aren't you already there?
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:42 PM
    SnakeBite
    Although we will live miles apart, my heart will always be close to yours
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:44 PM
    Gurshalyulo
    Nice nice. KEEP IT COMING GUYS. I'm going to gift wrap it and not let her open it until she gets on the plane. Unless you guys think otherwise. But keep it coming guys. I want her to love it so much she crys!
  • Aug 5, 2007, 06:47 PM
    GlindaofOz
    Here is a page with a bunch of short quotes of friendship.

    Friendship Quotes - The Quotations Page

    I didn't want to pick one for you I figure its too personal for that :)

    What you are doing is really sweet and any girl would appreciate such a thoughtful gift.

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