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Who is the father?

Hi, I'd like to know who the father of my baby is? My due date is July 7 2016.

I had unprotected sex with Man A once either late night October 4 2015 or early morning October 5 2015. He pulled out. Then, with Man B once October 9 2015 he says he didn't . And lastly Man C from October 13 2015 and several days after. Man C ejaculated in me each time. All three men are no longer in my life. Based on your knowledge Who is the most likely father of my baby? Thank you.
Please no judgements I feel bad enough about this. Thank you.

No judgements here. None at all.

Sadly, what you describe, the dates are too close to even give an educated guess. Due dates are a best guess, and considering the dates you had sex with all three men, even if they pulled out (more than enough sperm in pre-ejaculate to get you pregnant), it's not even possible to give a guess.

Your only option is a DNA test after baby is born. That's the only way you'll pin down paternity of this baby.

I wish you the best of luck.

Thank you for your reply and understanding Alty. Do you mean family finder DNA? Or a paternity test? I'm not sure if Its possible to locate the possible fathers. My mom says it doesn't matter because I'll be the one raising it anyway but Id still like to know.

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Originally Posted by Chetvyyeu

Thank you for your reply and understanding Alty. Do you mean family finder DNA? Or a paternity test? I'm not sure if Its possible to locate the possible fathers. My mom says it doesn't matter because I'll be the one raising it anyway but Id still like to know.

Paternity test/DNA test. Not being able to locate the possible fathers may make it difficult. I'd start with the man that admits he ejaculated in you. If you can contact him and get a DNA test done, that's where I'd start. If that test is negative for him, I'd find the other two possible dads.

You shouldn't have to take this burden on yourself. You deserve to have support from the father in raising this child, if not emotional, then at least financial.

It won't be easy, but the child does deserve to know who his/her father is, and the child and you, also deserve, at the very least, financial support from the man that helped create this new life.

Wish we could tell you who the daddy is, but with the dates you provided, it's anyone's guess. Only DNA tests will tell you, and only after baby is born.

I wish you a safe and healthy pregnancy. Babies are a blessing, and I'm sure you'll love this baby no matter what. But, if it were me, I'd want to know, not only to get child support, but for my child, who the daddy is. And you may be surprised, because the dad of this child may also want to know he helped to create a life, and be involved in this life, which would be the best thing ever for this baby.

I wish you the best of luck and I hope you find the answers, and that the man that turns out to be the dad, ends up being a good dad. :)

I understand. I will follow your advice. The man you suggested has schizophrenia and disappears frequently, He is on SSI, doesn't work, has been off his meds and is homeless but I will still try to communicate. I hope that too :) and thank you. Now I know what to do :)

You're very welcome, and I hope it all works out. Please continue posting, keep me updated on how it all goes. I wish you and your baby all the best. Children are a blessing, have two myself, both teenagers. Can't imagine my life without them.

Best of luck to you, and a happy, healthy baby on delivery. :)

Thank you :) it doesn't look like I can contact any of them. But that's okay. Good evening Alty.

Initially a "paternity test" was to determine by blood typing whether a person was a father or not. Those tests have been supplanted by DNA testing, which is more accurate. So, you would have to do such testing. As Alty said, the dates are too close to tell for sure. The most likely is the middle one (B), but all three of them are possible.

As far as locating the father, a big question is whether you will need to apply for public assistance. If you do the state is going to require that you identify the potential fathers and they will help to try and locate them.