I Am Engaged To Be Married But I Am Still In Love With My Kids Father And I Want Ot Be With Him But What Do I Do Cauze My Ex Messed Up Badly And I Am Scarred To Trust Him Again

Dreamgurl,
Please break off the engagement and take time to think about what you're doing and what you're about to do. You are downright cheating on your fiancé before you even start married life together.
There is so much here you need to deal with and resolve before you can even become emotionally available to someone, let alone be engaged to someone.
First, resolve your feelings for your ex. Either move on (doesn't matter whether you love him or not) or confront him and communicate your feelings. I don't know enough about your relationship with your ex but I advice moving on since you were broken up long enough to get engaged to someone else. (Right?) You will always be connected to him through the kid(s) you had with him so you can't completely cut him off but you need to recognize that you and he are over. You have to regain your life and move on so that you can have a happy and successful relationship with another.

Secondly, be honest to your current fiancé. What you are doing is not right and if you continue, it is a disaster waiting to happen. So, ask for time to clear your head and deal with your issues.

I can't tell you that you ex isn't going to break your heart or even that you should try to rekindle whatever you had but you can't get married to this other guy. It's not fair to him when you can't give all of yourself to him. I'm sure either way you will always wonder "what if". You are the leader of your own destiny so the answer to your question lies within you.

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Originally Posted by manimuth

dreamgurl,
Please break off the engagement and take time to think about what you're doing and what you're about to do. You are downright cheating on your fiance before you even start married life together.
There is so much here you need to deal with and resolve before you can even become emotionally available to someone, let alone be engaged to someone.
First, resolve your feelings for your ex. Either move on (doesn't matter whether you love him or not) or confront him and communicate your feelings. I don't know enough about your relationship with your ex but I advice moving on since you were broken up long enough to get engaged to someone else. (Right?) You will always be connected to him through the kid(s) you had with him so you can't completely cut him off but you need to recognize that you and he are over. You have to regain your life and move on so that you can have a happy and successful relationship with another.

Secondly, be honest to your current fiance. What you are doing is not right and if you continue, it is a disaster waiting to happen. So, ask for time to clear your head and deal with your issues.

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I know I should break off the engagement but I am really scarred because my kids father hurt me before but he still loves me with all of his heart and I am still in love with him also so I don't know what to do because my kids father is locked up and he won't be getting out until 2 years from now so I want to wait on him but I don't want to hurt my fiancé

Take time out and think about this - you must not go into a relationship for the wrong reasons as one day it will come back and bite you in the butt!!

You have already hurt your fiancé as you are deceiving him. Break all of this off my dear, and get your confusion under control. What your doing is so wrong for everyone and you are I no way ready to get married. Be honest with yourself and your fiancé and do the right thing and let him go. Right now you aren't even g/f material as it stands.