Originally Posted by
talaniman
I remember well the working many hours while in school to qualify for a better job. There was no time for much else except whatever rest one could get. It had to be done. The regrets for missing the family stuff and the kids growing didn't come until much later when they were almost grown and gone.
Most men have little choice but to take the opportunity to provide when it happens and expect the wife too understand and see when the family starts to grow, and the wife isn't working the financial burden grows also.
Can you not see his point of view that your plan means more responsibility with less money later? Life is messy and unpredictable as is the interactions of married people. You have your ideas, and goals, and ways of doing things, and he has his... work together as best you can. It's never easy.
Plenty of obstacles along the road of life. You have it made now with no kids, it gets harder after they get here.
Learning to communicate, and work together is an ongoing process for life.