It is possible to be too helpful?
Hey guys,
I've been doing some reflecting over the past few days, and although it only came up once, something my ex said to me has stuck in my head.
I was always the one to try and help her find a solution and help whatever problem she was in. If I didn't, or couldn't, come up with a good answer, I got extremely frustrated with myself, and felt like I was failing her.
At one time, she told me that she doesn't always need me to come up with answers and help her solve the problems, she's just telling me these things because she wants someone to listen to her. She wanted someone to talk to.
When I think back on it now, it seems to make a bit more sense, it just kind of sucks to hear about someone's issues and not be able to help.
Is it possible to be too helpful? Is it better to just sit back and listen and not give any input? How can a guy know what's wanted? :o