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Something happened to my friend and she told the school phycologist and she got the cop that's always at my school involved... now they want me to give them my other friends number so he can get in trouble but I can't do that... I can't just give them his number so he can go 2 jail and get raped by bubba... they even tried asking me if I had any kind of sexual contact with him like it matter anyway seeing as I'm not under age... they actually thought I would tell them the truth... What do you think I should do?

I guess you can play stupid and lie. If you are found to be lying, you can be further questioned. If you tell the truth, you say your friend gets into trouble and sent to jail. If your friend truly did something against the law, where do you think he should go? By protecting him, are you then denying any justice for your other friend?

What happened to your friend? Would this guy do this to you. If you get caught lying by the cops then you can be charged for it. But if he did something bad to your friend then you need to stand by her side unless its something petty, because no one likes a nark

Its called obstruction of justice if you don't cooperate with the police and you get into a lot of trouble. If the police are after your friend then he has obviously something to answer for and you have a responsibility to help the police.

Tell the truth and help the police, your school and your friend. If it was serious enough for your friend to tell a counselor and for in turn to tell the police then it is serious enough for you to tell the truth about your friend.

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Originally Posted by Lillian42

what happened to your friend? would this guy do this to you. if you get caught lieing by the cops then you can be charged for it. but if he did something bad to your friend then you need to stand by her side unless its something petty, because no one likes a nark

what happened to her isn't important. yea he would do it to me but im not under age so he can't get in trouble for doing it to me. my friend doesn't even care bout it she just wants all the drama to stop.

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Originally Posted by shygrneyzs

I guess you can play stupid and lie. If you are found to be lying, you can be further questioned. If you tell the truth, you say your friend gets into trouble and sent to jail. If your friend truly did something against the law, where do you think he should go? By protecting him, are you then denying any justice for your other friend?

my other friend doesn't even care bout what happened to her and it doesn't really matter anymore cause i already no that nothings gunna happen

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Originally Posted by Skell

Its called obstruction of justice if you dont cooperate with the police and you get into a lot of trouble. If the police are after your friend then he has obviously something to answer for and you have a responsibility to help the police.

Tell the truth and help the police, your school and your friend. If it was serious enough for your friend to tell a counselor and for in turn to tell the police then it is serious enough for you to tell the truth about your friend.

my friend didn't tell the phycologist she just gave her enough hints to figure it out. she doesn't even care bout what happened. and i don't have a responsibility to help the cops i hate the cops n i'd rather help my friend

Wow Melly16,
You sound really young. I know you don't want anyone to tell you what to do but you did ask... Your friend may not care what happened but obviously it was serious enough for someone to think something should be done. You say you're not underage anymore so if you're not then take the adult path and actually consider what others might be telling you. You don't HAVE to go to the cops if you don't want to, but every action has a consequence, so understand that this one will too. Either the cops will just shrug it off and leave you alone, in which case you can go speak to your friend on your own and tell him to get his act together or the cops will hold you accountable which they can do because you are an adult, if only in the eyes of the legal system, and you might join your friend in the slammer.
If your other friend "gave hints" chances are she wanted someone to know, which means she DOES care. When someone really doesn't care about something, they don't talk about it and don't drop hints. Not caring really means not caring. Anger doesn't mean not caring. Sadness doesn't mean not caring. Even Indifference doesn't really mean not caring if the person says one thing but behaves differently. It may just mean not willing or wanting to accept. That is a good ADULT thing to know.
I know it can be hard but try to look at it from the counselors side... if they didn't say anything and this ended up being a REALLY BIG ISSUE that COULD have hurt other people how would you feel? IF you were them what would YOU have done. You are at an age where its really time for YOU to care regardless of how others feel. When someone screams " I dont care!" rest assured 99 times out of 100 they really really do.

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Originally Posted by nottheonlycluelesstexan

Wow Melly16,
You sound really young. I know you dont want anyone to tell you what to do but you did ask... Your friend may not care what happened but obviously it was serious enough for someone to think something should be done. You say you're not underage anymore so if youre not then take the adult path and actually consider what others might be telling you. You dont HAVE to go to the cops if you dont want to, but every action has a consequence, so understand that this one will too. Either the cops will just shrug it off and leave you alone, in which case you can go speak to your friend on your own and tell him to get his act together or the cops will hold you accountable which they can do because you are an adult, if only in the eyes of the legal system, and you might join your friend in the slammer.
If your other friend "gave hints" chances are she wanted somone to know, which means she DOES care. When someone really doesnt care about something, they dont talk about it and dont drop hints. Not caring really means not caring. Anger doesnt mean not caring. Sadness doesnt mean not caring. Even Indifference doesnt really mean not caring if the person says one thing but behaves differently. It may just mean not willing or wanting to accept. That is a good ADULT thing to know.
I know it can be hard but try to look at it from the counselors side... if they didnt say anything and this ended up being a REALLY BIG ISSUE that COULD have hurt other people how would you feel? IF you were them what would YOU have done. You are at an age where its really time for YOU to care regardless of how others feel. When someone screams " I dont care!" rest assured 99 times out of 100 they really really do.

I don't need people telling me I already no. nothings going to happen to my friend this s over. If something was going to happen my other friends dad would have done something or at least tried to. I only ask for help cause I wanted peoples opinion so I could laugh at what they say.

Ahh yes -- people take time to think about and respond to your question -- and you act like a child.

This says a lot about the true you. -- Respectfully -- Savage

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Originally Posted by melly16

something happened to my friend and she told the school phycologist and she got the cop thats always at my school involved.........now they want me to give them my other friends number so he can get in trouble but i can't do that...........i can't just give them his number so he can go 2 jail and get raped by bubba.........they even tried asking me if i had any kind of sexual contact with him like it matter anyway seeing as i'm not under age........they actually thought i would tell them the truth..........What do you think i should do?

People take the time in trying to help others and your just blowing it back in there face.
If this is the sort of person you are I really hope you change or you will be a very lonely person later in life.

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Originally Posted by TheSavage

Ahh yes -- people take time to think about and respond to your question -- and you act like a child.

This says a lot about the true you. -- Respectfully -- Savage

I don't act like a ing child I just don't want anything to happen to my friend and my other friend doesn't want anything to happen to him eather... this s ing over anyway nothing happened and nothing will happen... what he did wasn't all that bad anyway...