I'm a guy 22 years old. I have been single for over a year now. My past relationship was 3.5 years and now my ex and I are more like best friend. I know about everything what's going on with her life and relationship and she knows about mine too and I'm cool with that. I've known myself so much since I've been single, I've been to 3 countries already for holiday with my friends as it was really my dream to travel and next year I'm going for 2 weeks holiday again.

I have a stable job, I have a good social life that every week I go out drinking or catching up with friends. Everyone sees me as a very friendly guy whom they are not afraid to go out to as they know I can keep them company. I know that I am confident and know how to talk to different people I meet.
But the thing is, I hook up with few girls every week although they don't attract me that much like if it happened then it happened but I stay friends with them and I do not give them reasons to be awkward.

Why do I feel like I never want to be in serious relationship like I don't see myself to commit with someone in the future cause I don't have any feelings for anyone. Plus I hate listening to slow or love songs because I'm afraid that it might make me sad and think about what Love is. People say that I'm bitter but I'm not.
Sorry if this is a stupid question but I just don't know why I feel this way.

P.S
A friend of mine is mad at me cause of some reasons that I know is my fault, but I haven't apologise yet as I don't feel like saying it yet because I'm pissed too. I'll say sorry in a week or few days at least by then I mean it. Does that make me bitter too?

Thanks very much

Maybe you need to volunteer and help the less fortunate, so you can be grateful to have what you have as many do not.

First, you are only 22. You have the rest of your life. Second. You just haven't met that special someone yet. You will meet a lot of "I'd like to bang that ones" but someone you want to spend a lot of years with is something different.

At 22, you and your friends simply don't have enough life experience to decide if you have met that special person yet. Sure they all seem great until you've net someone better... then you see them for what they were. OK, but not great.

I don't see much 'wrong' with you, for the simple reason that you are 22. Heck, I was a wreck at 22. If I can remember back 46 years, I'd say that I craved love and affection but was too 'disaffected' (a word I liked at that time to describe my place in the world) to reciprocate, or even enjoy it.

Give yourself time. If you are still the same when you are 30, then look into yourself. You dropped a little clue about something, not sure what, when you said that love songs might make you sad.
Were your parents happy with each other (if you had two)? And with you?

As for the friend to whom you owe an apology, and you know it was your fault, then you grow up and apologize NOW. You may BE pissed off, but you have no right to be, by your own admission, so show some integrity. You'll feel better, the friend will feel better. And never never add ANYTHING to an apology. No excuses, no buts, nothing. You can briefly EXPLAIN why you acted unfairly, but be careful of drifting over the line into excuses, so leave it out if you can't do it right. And don't ask for forgiveness either. That puts an immediate burden on that person.

So "I apologize. I'm really really sorry. I have no excuses. I can explain why I screwed up, but won't, because it will sound like an excuse. So I just apologize." That's an adult apology.

What's wrong with you? You are a prevaricator, that's what, and not a very good one.

Today you are a 22 year old male that been married for over three years.

June 17, you were a 21 year old female, over weight and doing extreme diets.

June 6, you were a 21 year old female who couldn't deal with a younger sister.

In reality you are probably a girl, about 13 with a wild imagination.

Go away, you are annoying the adults.

Aha... great catch. I'm going to look up their posting history myself...

Hey it was a good story, they have a great future writing fiction. (or being a criminal)

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I agree to some extent. She needs to stop the long run -on sentences and drop the useless words.

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I know that I am confident

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I don't see myself to commit with someone

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Very obvious that this post was written by a female, a young inexperienced female. What 22 year old male, that has just ended long term relationship, is going to be concerned about not feeling the need for another long term relationship?
All of the ideas, concerns and worries are from the female prospective. To have visited 3 countries from the UK is hardly an achievement (unless you are Hillary Clinton).

In the sisters story, she is the annoying 13 year who bugging her older sister. Hard to tell if she has a weight problem but probably does. Which would be the reason she is being so annoying to her older sister. Pretty juvenile to still be making faces at 13.

Just a 13 year old female with a trying to imagine what its like to be an adult.

I guess my post would have been more helpful if I had said,

"Stop bugging your sister. She is your best friend. Ask her to help you find a reasonable diet and exercise plan. Be nice and maybe she will do work outs with you. Be nice to your friends, we all need all the friends we can get. Enjoy being 13 this year and next year you can enjoy being 14. Pretty soon you will be able to enjoy being 21. Don't worry, you will be old enough, soon enough."