Does the third person in an HR meeting have to be my Boss?
I'm scared of my boss. She belittles me in front of others, calls me names, will ignore me for days, withholding information related to my job, then scold me when I do not complete something on time. She slams doors in my face, she slams her firsts on the desk, she slams phones down, she slams books down. She rolls her eyes, she laughs if I look like I might cry. She accuses me of doing things I've not done, or accuses me of not doing things that I have done then yells "NO" if I try to defend myself. She makes Glen Close look like a gem in the Devil Wears Prada. She treats others this way too. She throws temper tantrums in public. She's getting worse. I know I know, why have I not quit, I'm looking for other jobs, it's just slim pickings for someone with my level of student loan dept.
I'm getting called into the HR office because I've stopped saying sorry for everything. I read that women say sorry too much so I'm trying to stop. Anyway, I would like to meet with HR without my boss there so that I can be more honest. I'm too scared to really list everything that I'm stressing out about in front of my boss. I know I'm going to cry and my boss will use it as ammo against me later, "remember that time you cried?" I tried to go to HR once before about all this but my boss was there and she became angry that I'd not said something to her first. As I stated, I'm scared of my boss and about the retaliation that may occur.
No one around here goes to HR problems about their supervisor because the HR person will call the supervisor up on the phone after the meeting to complain that someone is complaining. Then the supervisor retaliates against the employee filing the complaint by making their life awful.
I did not call this meeting, my supervisor did. I'd like for someone other than my boss to be in the meeting so that I can speak freely.