Ask Me Help Desk - Relationship - What is up with me, is there any way to resolve this

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“She is the best girl I would ever meet” WHAT? Dude your sights are set way too low.

You don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship from what you wrote. Obviously there is a reason for this and it’s a reason not being shared with you. Too many times we think we have to remain in a relationship because it’s safe. What we don’t realize is being single sometimes is a better option. Now granted, we are only hearing your side of the story. But if it were me I would move on. I don’t care for drama and a good relationship is much better than what you have.

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

“She is the best girl I would ever meet” WHAT? Dude your sights are set way too low.

You don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship from what you wrote. Obviously there is a reason for this and it’s a reason not being shared with you. Too many times we think we have to remain in a relationship because it’s safe. What we don’t realize is being single sometimes is a better option. Now granted, we are only hearing your side of the story. But if it were me I would move on. I don’t care for drama and a good relationship is much better than what you have.

Thanks much appreciated

Time to move on. This isn't a friendship much less a relationship. You've already wasted too much time.

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Originally Posted by kieran123

Here are the basics;

Ive been in a relationship with my girl for 10 month. About 8 month ago she deletes messages with other lads infront of my face and it has affected me since my ex did the same thing and i found out i was cheated on.
She used to lie to me all the time
Since then we have argued at least once a week which has like turned me off in a way like lost a bit of love and got me bored as arguing is such a regular thing with us
I dont trust her with other lads after that incident
We never have sex or do anything sexual for that matter. Everytime i try something she makes up an excuse not to. She says she wont have sex with me for a while too
Whenever she trys flirting with me which is very rare i get a really awkward feeling because she gave me the impression that shes not like that and its really weird for me to flirt now
Also its rare we have a conversation in person or on facebook about a certain topic. For example most of the time when im with her in person all we do it sit on bed doing nothing giving one word answers to each other and then she starts arguing to me as i fall to sleep because ive been on a bed for 10 hours doing nothing what so ever.

Basically what I am saying is I think I have lost love for her but I want to be with her! She is the best girl I would ever meet but I can see me finishing her due to me getting bored and not shown love as much towards me anymore. What do I do and is there a reason for all this?

Jeeze dude... I don't see anything positive about her in all of that. And I see nothing but reasons to run... not just walk away.

ANYONE can do way better than her.

Run far, run fast....and don't look back.

You both sound so young it's a wonder you even call this a relationship. It happens a lot though and there is nothing to do but leave a relationship that has fizzled and the happiness is GONE, and been gone for a while. Thank her for her time and leave on good terms.

How old would you both be? That probably will have more to do with a dead relationship as anything else.

We are both 16 nearly 17

Well that changes my answer somewhat. I applaud her for not having sex for the sake of having sex. You two are still oil and water so there’s no need to engage in a physical relationship. But again, we have only heard your side of the story. If it’s not the complete story, then you will need to consider how you helped create whatever happened to this relationship so you won’t find yourself in exactly this same position with the next one.

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Originally Posted by Oliver2011

Well that changes my answer somewhat. I applaud her for not having sex for the sake of having sex. You two are still oil and water so there’s no need to engage in a physical relationship. But again, we have only heard your side of the story. If it’s not the complete story, then you will need to consider how you helped create whatever happened to this relationship so you won’t find yourself in exactly this same position with the next one.

Cheers buddy means a lot!