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Am I a real father?

Hello, I am a guy, here is my story and I need an advice:
My girlfriend last period was on 14-18 of MAY , 2015. We didn't have sex
With her up until 19th of June. After 19th of June we had sex on :
19, 20 , 21 June and then 27, 28 of June and then 5th of July.

ON JUNE she didn't have period.
I NEVER finish inside.
I notice thrush on my penis after 27-28 of June we had sex. ( Also white creamy stuff from her vagina on my penis )

On 7th of July, she made a pregnancy test and said that she is pregnant.
She went to see a doctor, who said her pregnancy is approximately 2 weeks ( I didn't go with her , so information can be fake)
She felt faint on 18th of JUNE and 8th of July.

I think it is not my baby.
I don't know how to figure out.

What are the chances its my baby and what are the odds she cheated on me.

I try to think and hope its my baby, so I thought maybe she had a missed period? I try to count days... I don't know what to do...

Please remember I never finish inside.

When the child is born... get a DNA test. It's the only way to know for certain if she has slept with ANYONE else during that period. In fact its a good idea if there is ANY doubt.

Thanks for reply , yes definitely , DNA test will be done. Just can't live my usual life knowing that the child may not be mine. Because if you look at all of the facts I mentioned, it seem like she got pregnant in the end of the May.

Even id she is given a due date... be best guess for conception is going to be a window of time plus or minus 2 weeks from that meaning a possibility of it being that entire month.

You really need to know for certain early on... because if you raise the child for years, then find out it wasn't yours even if you break up you will be legally bound to child support.

Its always best to have all the valid information to base decisions on. Not guesses and hopes. If you end up staying with her and raising the child even if its not yours (lots of guys do)... you know this going into it, and won't harbor resentment for being deceived if you later find out its not yours.

First, ANY time there is penile insertion there is the possibility of pregnancy. The withdrawal method, which is what is sounds like you used, is the least effective form of birth control.

Second, so you go with her on her next visit to the OBGyn. You ask for an estimate of a conception data. Note, this will only be an estimate and could go 2 weeks either way.

I will say that it doesn't seem likely that on July 8, she would be 2 weeks pregnant. Assuming her last period started on 5/14, It is likely she ovulated around the beginning of June. Even if she did get a period in June, she would have ovulated again at the beginning of July. So she either got pregnant early in June or early in July. In neither case would she be 2 weeks pregnant at this time.

As to whether you are the father, it would be hard to tell. Calculating conception is guesswork. So the only way to know for sure is with a DNA test once the child is born.

So my advice to you is to tell your girlfriend that the timing doesn't seem right for the child to be yours. So you will want a DNA test done at birth. That will confirm paternity so, if there is anything she wants to tell you she should say something now.

What did the doctor base the 2 weeks on? Until a scan is done, pregnancy is estimated from the last period.

Go with her when she has her first scan. You will get a better idea of when she likely became pregnant. Certainly the DNA test will let you be certain.

Conception dating, as said already is not exact. And most pregnancy dates are based on last period. Conception dating, is easy off by one week, sometimes even more.

So there really is no way to know, till child is born and a DNA test is done.

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Please remember I never finish inside.

That doesn't mean you did not impregnate her. You don't have enough facts to eliminate yourself as the father, and building up a notion of you are not based on what little you have, is rather foolish at this point. Trust but verify, and just be honest about a DNA test at birth. IF she plans on keeping this baby.

I just thought of something else here. A conception date, especially with no scan, is based almost solely on the date of the last menstrual period (LMP). So for the doctor to have told her that she was 2 weeks likely means that she told him she had a period near the end of June. Whether this was true or not I don't know. And it may be unlikely you don't either. She may have told you she didn't get it, but you don't know for sure unless you checked for a flow.

I think Doula's suggestion makes the most sense. Go with her for her next appointment. If she refuses or the doctor tells something different, then you can say to her what I suggested.

Yeah , totally agree with you guys, I am not trying to run away from child or something I wish it is mine :], got to wait 9 month to check for DNA , hopefully my doubts will be dismissed.