I have been going out with the same woman for about three years. The first year we went out, our relationship was exciting, wild, intimate. It was absolutely amazing.

After a little over the first year, I noticed we were drinking a lot of alcohol. I really started to not want to be drinking and didn't want the alcohol in the relationship. I quit drinking and it made her mad. She stated that she would continue to drink regardless of my decision. She basically admitted to being an alcoholic.

At this point, I realized that the dynamic of our relationship changed. She didn't want to drink around me, but when apart she would drink, drink heavily. She no longer wanted to be wild and intimate , still cares about me and wants to be with me, but her sex drive is not there. I have brought it up numerous times, suggested seeing a counselor, asked her how she feels about me and whether she still wants to be together.

As of the last two months, she has quit drinking, but to be honest, I am starting to wonder whether this will last. I have been understanding and patient but I have needs that aren't being met. I have started to think about ending the relationship, dating, finding someone that wants to be with me and wants to be intimate with me. I am very much at a point that seems hopeless and could use someone to talk to that understands how I feel.



RAM

Well don't let anyone threaten your sobriety. And honestly it sounds as if you already know the answer to your question.