I really want to join the schools soccer team, I love playing soccer and have been told by the coach I have some skills. The only problem is the parents I babysit for me step mum on the same night as training and I'd have to stop working on Saturdays or start later. I don't want to argue with them and I really want to play but I think me dad will say no. Any suggestions on how to convince them

You have had many problems with your dad and stepmother. Not too long ago you wanted to move out. There seems to have been one thing after another. All I can tell you is ask them. If they say no, don't argue. How much longer before you are out of school?

You talk to them and don't argue if they don't agree, or you don't get your way.

You do not discuss other issues. You have written, how it all will work. If you can not baby sit, who will, and who will pay for it, (if pay is needed)

You will need to show that you have thought it out, and present reasons they should allow it.

And if they say no, you shut up, and do not say anything negative. For a argument to happen, both sides have to argue.

Or he could look at this as a chance for you to learn teamwork, discipline, exercise, and a lot of other positive concepts.

Is there a reason why you babysit on that particular night? Is there a way the night you on which you babysit can be changed?

As for work, talk to your boss. Some bosses are willing to schedule around school/sport related activities especially for teen workers. If the boss is willing to work with you, then it is another positive on your side.

Does your father like soccer or sports in general? If so, this could be something you can share.

Let the negative thoughts go. Be positive about what you want, how you can make it work, that he will listen to your plans and see it as an good opportunity. Be prepared for questions about how long you will stay with it and if you understand that quitting just because it is harder than you thought it will be isn't an option.

Be prepared if he says no, but give your father a chance to respond with his own thoughts and words instead of deciding his response for him.

I think you have it in you to do well. I also think this is another step forward and away from the past. I hope your father sees it as a good thing, too.