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  • Jun 8, 2015, 03:47 PM
    benjaminabela
    In need of some relationship advice
    I'm a male teenager and my best friend (female) and I have just admitted to each other that we have feelings towards each other over Facebook. We are usually very comfortable around each other and we are constantly joking about. However, now whenever we meet in real life we seem to be too shy to acknowledge what we have said to each other and we don't really talk about it, I suppose it's because we're both quite shy when it comes to these things.

    I need some help about what I can do to make it more comfortable for both of us to actually feel comfortable talking about our feelings towards each other face to face rather than online. It was really hard for both of us to build up the courage to admit that we liked each other so I don't want that all this goes to waste.

    Thanks a bunch :)
  • Jun 8, 2015, 04:26 PM
    Cat1864
    benjamin, before giving advice, do you mind sharing your ages? 'Teen' is just a bit too broad of an age group to give accurate advice. Thanks
  • Jun 8, 2015, 05:45 PM
    talaniman
    Quite agree! Are you 13, or 19?
  • Jun 9, 2015, 04:20 AM
    joypulv
    Two shy teenage friends who start to fall for each other are a refreshing blast from the past. You will be FINE regardless of how awkward it may feel. Best wishes.

    Oh - advice? I don't think you need any. Maybe just that there's no need to blurt it all out at once. Go for a stroll with ice cream cones and talk about anything and everything, and eventually you will each sneak a 'feeling' into the conversation. Some variation on 'I've always liked you of course, but now my heart speeds up when we are together.'
  • Jun 10, 2015, 06:10 AM
    Jake2008
    Gay or straight, it is not easy to jump into the strange and unknown waters of romance.

    What you feel, is what you feel, and while you may be quite honest, you know nothing of your friend's feelings really. He may not be yet at the stage where he is comfortable talking about his sexuality- and he could be straight but curious, or bi, or gay- who knows.

    I would keep the conversations comfortable, and accept that it is possible that he may be attracted to you, but nowhere near ready able to talk about it.

    Good luck.
  • Jun 10, 2015, 06:37 AM
    Jake2008
    I am sorry, I read your post again, and realized you were talking about a girl.

    Same advice though, play it cool!
  • Jun 10, 2015, 06:39 AM
    Cat1864
    The only advice I will give without knowing your ages and if you are old enough and/or have parental permission to date is to continue being yourself. Continue being the best friend you have always been.
  • Jun 22, 2015, 07:37 AM
    AtLarge
    Look. Feelings are feelings whether you are 15 or 51. It is all real. But shyness can be a good thing. Like someone already said, just continue being friends. The rest will come naturally. What is the hurry? You are already good friends and that is the part a lot of people never get! Consider yourself lucky :)

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