Okay, before I ask again, let me explain the situation. A friend of mine that I am interested in and I were talking over a skype chat. She is an artist, and showed me a piece of work she did. It was a series of facial expressions, four to be exact. They were each labeled either Happy, sad, pleased, or flirty. The first three were pretty well done for the expression noted. The last one honestly looked like it was more of a "I'm going to stalk you" Face than a flirty face. I said it wasn't as bad as it could have been, and she immediately went into a "Piss off" Mode. After a strew of insults reflected at me, I decided to just stop talking and turn off my computer. The part confusing me is that even though she did her best to hurt me, I'm just sad because I somehow made her mad. Really, I'm torn between just cutting my ties with her and trying to reconcile later, once she has calmed down. I don't know what to do, because this has happened before but on a lesser scale and about other things. Usually we get along great however, and just the fact that she is mad at me is tearing me up. What should I do?

Just want to point this out, that should say "What" not "Why" in the question title. I guess I mess up my grammar when I am frustrated.

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Originally Posted by Hunterm4532

Okay, before I ask again, let me explain the situation. A friend of mine that I am interested in and I were talking over a skype chat. She is an artist, and showed me a piece of work she did. It was a series of facial expressions, four to be exact. They were each labeled either Happy, sad, pleased, or flirty. The first three were pretty well done for the expression noted. The last one honestly looked like it was more of a "I'm going to stalk you" Face than a flirty face. I said it wasn't as bad as it could have been, and she immediately went into a "Piss off" Mode. After a strew of insults reflected at me, I decided to just stop talking and turn off my computer. The part confusing me is that even though she did her best to hurt me, I'm just sad because I somehow made her mad. Really, I'm torn between just cutting my ties with her and trying to reconcile later, once she has calmed down. I don't know what to do, because this has happened before but on a lesser scale and about other things. Usually we get along great however, and just the fact that she is mad at me is tearing me up. What should I do?

Just want to point this out, that should say "What" not "Why" in the question title. I guess I mess up my grammar when I am frustrated.

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How can you ask again when this is your first post?

But trust me...those temper tantrums and tirades aren't going to stop....they will only get worse. She's a temperamental prima-donna that will only cause you grief. I'd move on....there are lots of less volatile women out there.

What did your response It wasn't as bad as it could have been mean? Maybe she took it wrong or you said it wrong, but since she has done this before, I just leave her alone or accept the fact that she is a bit temperamental.

Agree. And less volatile is much more pleasant to be around. If she's going to put art out there, she's going to have to accept criticism.

If you value this painful friendship, you could explain to her in person during a nice moment and in a non threatening way that her tirades are impacting your wanting to be around her. Of course then be ready to duck.

Always look for people who won't bring drama to your life.

What's the big deal? You had a spat. See what happens after you BOTH cool off.

Maybe your wording could have been a bit different if you wanted to let her know that it didn't look quite flirty to you. In essence you told her you thought it was bad. While perhaps you didn't intend to actually tell her that, that was her obvious perception.
Yes, she will need to learn to expect and accept that not everyone will see her art the same way that she does, but you might also consider your choice of words.
As was said, you had a disagreement, friends do. You'll have to decide whether her sensitivity is a deal breaker or not to the friendship.

How close a friend, if this is not like a best friend, you just say you like their paintings, it sounded like you did not like it, can told her it was not that good. So she got mad.

What is complicated about this.