We've only been dating for about a month or so. The first couple of weeks, he called me every day, sometimes twice a day. Then it was less frequent. I assumed he didn't have the guts to break it off, so I stopped calling him and he wouldn't call me for a few days, but he always called. Said things were bad with his job. Maybe they were. Maybe I should try to understand. But days with no calls? That just adds up to losing interest. Today, my friend and I were rearranging furniture at my place and during a break, she gets on the computer and logs on a dating site. We're laughing and she stumbles on this one where I'm sure I've heard these phrases before, specifically one saying. No mistake, it's him. I'd bet the farm on it. So, I haven't heard from him since Sunday, I figured it's really over now. But he calls me today. I can't bring myself to answer the phone. He leaves a message saying he can't wait to see me tomorrow. I'm not sure how to handle this. Any suggestions? We're both well over 21 adults.

If you have only been dating a month, my guess is you two are not in a committed relationship. If that is the case, then you are both free to date other people or post online. If it truly bothers you that he may be seeing other people, then talk to him about it. If that does not resolve the issue, then don't see him. After only a month, deep feelings are not invested here. Just my opinion...

Another point I would like to add is that you said the phrases sound the same and you bet it is him, but you do not really know. Do you?

I think your mind is way too active.

It seems that you are wayyyyy over-analyzing this situation. If a man is interested, he calls. Period. Even just to say he doesn't have time to talk. Let it go and find someone you can really have a relationship with.

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Originally Posted by ActiveMind

We've only been dating for about a month or so. The first couple of weeks, he called me every day, sometimes twice a day. Then it was less frequent. I assumed he didn't have the guts to break it off, so I stopped calling him and he wouldn't call me for a few days, but he always called. Said things were bad with his job. Maybe they were. Maybe I should try to understand. But days with no calls? That just adds up to losing interest. Today, my friend and I were rearranging furniture at my place and during a break, she gets on the computer and logs on a dating site. We're laughing and she stumbles on this one where I'm sure I've heard these phrases before, specifically one saying. No mistake, it's him. I'd bet the farm on it. So, I haven't heard from him since Sunday, I figured it's really over now. But he calls me today. I can't bring myself to answer the phone. He leaves a message saying he can't wait to see me tomorrow. I'm not sure how to handle this. Any suggestions? We're both well over 21 adults.

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Hi I'm way under 21 I'm 9 you should pick up the phone scream down the phone: your dumped you selfish idiot! Find another boyfriend. I know it's not that easy but try!

It sounds like you aren't even sure you like him that much--do you want to date him merely because he is available or because you SINCERELY like him? If you've had the ability thus far to avoid him then continue doing that--it will help you move on. Although there are no technical rules that say you are exclusive, I hear you saying you're not comfortable with it so just leave it and use your sound judgement on the next person.

I wouldn't worry too much. You're not committed. Ya know? I wouldn't let it get to me. I would keep dating him and get to know him. Maybe sometime you could even joke about "hey i found you on this dating site one time" hahhahaha or something I don't know. I would find it quite funny. Embarrassing but funny! Relax :)

Your relationship with him is still fresh I suggest you meet up with him and talk to him about what is going on. Also take your time with him no rushing required. It could be bad timing but that still doesn't give him a right to be MIA. Good luck

This is a really old post, OP is dated: April 2007 ;)

Oh damn it sure is lol

Yeah I just noticed it too:))