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Okay so there is this guy I have a crush on, let's just call him M, well anyway my friend came to school today and told me that he liked me. She didn't even know I like him. The day goes by and the last class of the day is the only one I have with him. I walk in to the class and he isn't there. When I get home from school I text my friend and ask her if she was serious. She said yes so then I asked her why he wasn't in that class. She said he got suspended and can't go to school. Next I turn to my other friend who happens to have his number. I ask her for it and she says that she texted him this morning and he didn't answer and that he probably got his phone taken away. Well my problem is that my friend said that he didn't only like me but that he bought me some high-quality earings, I would rather not say what type, and I just want to ask him if he really did and if he really likes me. And to add on to that, M's friend said that M has a criminal record, which doesn't sound right considering M is a straight A student who has never gotten ISS before. What should I do to get this all figured out and talk to him again? Thank you so much if you read all of this

I'd go to the principal's office to find out if he really got suspended and for what. (After all, he's an A student, right?) Your friend(s) might be pulling your leg. Maybe he was just sick today. Meanwhile and otherwise, cool your jets.

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Originally Posted by Wondergirl

I'd go to the principal's office to find out if he really got suspended and for what. (After all, he's an A student, right?) Your friend(s) might be pulling your leg. Maybe he was just sick today. Meanwhile and otherwise, cool your jets.

That's the other problem, your aren't allowed to find out private info on somebody unless you are related to them. But thank you so much for answering my question!

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Originally Posted by soccercameroo

That's the other problem, your aren't allowed to find out private info on somebody unless you are related to them. But thank you so much for answering my question!

But that would be medical information. You can't even find out his school status somehow? Anyway, be careful what you believe coming from your friends.

Wait until he gets back to school. Talk to him. Could be horrible and embarrassing, but that's high school for you. It is the only real way to figure it out. If you rely on your friends for info you could face a situation seen rarely outside of a teen romance movie.

It is perfectly okay to ask a boy out.

Tread carefully. "Criminal" record is their history of bad behavior and it could be really bad. Maybe you should ask your parents if they mind you being interested in someone with a criminal past. I assume you are a teenager. For someone to get suspended, it could be cheating, threat of violence, could be violence, could be drug related, etc. Is it worth risking your future, your reputation, and potentially your health over someone like this? That's your decision to make.

I would tread very, very carefully here.

Rumour gets twisted around so easily. Do you know the telephone game? You get 15 people in a circle, and the first person whispers something in the ear of the person next to them. Then that person passes on the message, and so on and so on, until the last person gets the message. It is guaranteed that the message coming from the first person, is very different than the one coming from the last person.

So, it's a good idea not to listen to rumour, or, be involved in trying to sort out anybody's personal problems, by way of gossip. As hard as that is to resist, try your best to not contribute to the rumour mill.

That being said, all you really know to be truthful, is that you did not see him at school, in the class that you share with him. That's it.

Everything else is conjecture.

I would wait until the dust settles, and he is back to school. You might talk directly to him, even just to express concern that he's been absent. Don't call, don't text, don't get anybody else to do any communicating on your behalf. Leave the ball in his ballpark.

If he doesn't call, let it go.

If he does call, that would be the time to ask why he was away from school. Nothing can happen as in boyfriend/girlfriend possibilities, until you know he isn't a criminal with a record, and for all you know he may have had an impacted wisdom tooth.

If he comes right out with the truth, remember that he will probably downplay any convictions against him, so it may take a few conversations from a distance to get to the truth of the matter.

For all you know, he could have been sent home for shooting spit balls at the science teacher. Or, he could have assaulted people, or have some mental health issues, or went joy riding. You just don't know, until HE tells you, and you feel that you have the truth.

Be very, very careful.

Put all this drama and gossip and intrigue on hold until you can get facts from the source when he gets back. It's a great idea to keep friends out of your business, as they likely have it all wrong any way. How old are you both, as this does sound like grade school he said, she said drama.

Wait until the kid comes back to school and ask him what happened. How old are you two.

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Put all this drama and gossip and intrigue on hold until you can get facts from the source when he gets back. It's a great idea to keep friends out of your business, as they likely have it all wrong any way. How old are you both, as this does sound like grade school he said, she said drama.

We are both 14

Thank you Lord that I only had sons.

If he's truly suspended get back to your school work and pass your finals. It's almost summer anyway. Make plans. And realize people who date people with questionable character generally become questionable in character too, assuming what you said about him is true. If you doubt what I say show this whole thread to your parents and get their opinion.

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We are both 14

At 14 this is way too much drama. Finish out your school year.