I really like this girl named Lindsay. She's beautiful, extremely smart (3rd in the Senior class!), funny, and an all around awesome person. We're good friends, sometimes we text each other, and joke around at school.


My problem is, I really want to tell her, but I'm afraid she'd feel offended in some way, because I'm not 100% sure she's Gay/Bi. I know she's pro-gay rights, but she'd uncomfortable with talking about certain subjects, such as sexuality, religion, etc.


I'm completely Ok with her saying no, that's not a fear of mine because I know the possibilities of that, but I just don't want to offend her or make it awkward between us as friends.


Help? Opinions?


Thank you in advance.

Welcome to life. We often have to make snap decisions that could have negative fallout. Meaning its rare you have a situation where there is no downside.

You have to decide which is more important to you, and understand that whichever way it goes, its something you have to live with.

It very well might negatively affect your friendship.. at least from her perspective. However I might not use the word offended... more like creeped out, or uncomfortable. Knowing someone has amorous intentions towards you does alter the way you view them if you don't feel the same way. Male or female. It is however a choice you have to make for yourself.

Sometimes friends are shocked to know the level of attraction that people have to them, and it's hard to avoid those awkward times. I don't know how she will react, but the friendship may well change for a while, or longer. When in doubt always respect a friendship. You do have an idea of her comfort zone however, and I bet she has made no moves in your direction other than as a friend. Also betting it's a casual friendship from a friendly, popular person. Does she even know you are gay/bi? I don't want to assume though I think it likely.

If you are such good friends, the discussion of sexual preference is not discussed. I will assume she knows you are gay? Why not just talk to her? If you are friends she should not be upset.

If she knows you're gay and has not shown any signs of being interested in you, I would say your telling her may change your relationship. You have to ask yourself how important your friendship is.

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

If she knows you're gay and has not shown any signs of being interested in you, I would say your telling her may change your relationship. You have to ask yourself how important your friendship is.

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I Don't think he means that he's gay, I think what he meant to say is that he is not sure if she is gay/bi

I can be wrong but that's how I read it in my mind

I think this is a girl who likes another girl but doesn't not know if she is gay/bi