I've been in this relationship with my girlfriend for 5 months now. Everything has been amazing between us we have spent almost every day together doing something even if it was just watching a movie or talking for 5 minutes. Recently she has had some problems with another girl wanting to fight her and a few other social problems like that. I'm sure this has caused some stress for her. We recently started fighting or little stupid things about her social problems and things of that nature. Today she told me that she "needed some space right but that she loved me she just needed some time to think about things" she didn't mention anything about breaking up when we talked. I'm not sure what to make of this and I need some advise. I think that she feels that I pressure her too much about when she goes over to hang out with a bunch of guys that I don't know or situations like that. I don't mean to and it's just in my nature to ask questions about what she's doing. I told her that I understand that she need's some space, and that I would not bother her about stuff like that anymore because it bother's her and irritates her and that I love her. When he finished talking she told me that she would probably come over later tonight to see me. I don't understand what she's trying to say or what she wants. I would do anything for her and she know's that. I told her that everyone has fights in relationships and we aren't the only ones that do it. The best thing would be just for us to talk about things and sort them out so both of us are happy. That I would and will giver her all the space she needs. I just need someone to reply to what I have wrote with any helpful information you may have. I'm really confused right now and need some advise.

Sounds like things are still good between you two. Everyone fights in a relationship, "fights sometimes only make the relationship stronger." I know its hard to not wonder what she is doing with those friends of hers. I would definitely ask her to be honest with her feelings with you. A trick you can use is try to remind her of all the good times you have had with her. This usually always makes them think about you more. Good luck

Seems to me you need to trust her more. When she hangs out with friends, she still loves you and thinks about you. You sound a little too controlling and that may be why she is pulling back. When you complain about things she does, you're trying to change her. Just accept her for who she is, no pressure.

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Originally Posted by lnh814

Seems to me you need to trust her more. When she hangs out with friends, she still loves you and thinks about you. You sound a little too controlling and that may be why she is pulling back. When you complain about things she does, you're trying to change her. Just accept her for who she is, no pressure.

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Didn't you just post that your boyfriend needs space but you want to get back w/him? Is that a post you made up from the response you gave this guy? You should really only post one way not both as you are just a player then and nobody likes to be taken in by a shyster. You can't have it both ways and don't think your in a position to give anyone any advice as you don't know where your coming from. This site is for people helping each other-not making up a post to see how many people will reply to it.

This was good advice I have gotten else where, I'm trying to use it so I passed it on to someone with a similar problem.

See my post from earlier Feb 27 I believe, I'm not making it up.

Hi,
Simple answer... give her the space she needs.
If she really loves you, she will appreciate it, and you, even more.

Stop communicating with her for awhile, let her make up her own mind.

Best of luck,
fredg

Yep - Fred is right - give her the sapce NOW! I've been through it - if you don't she will leave you - it's a sign something IS wrong - you MUST be smothering her.

You also MUST be putting pressure on her.

This is your friend - treat like a friend - YOU DON'T have to see her every day - ever! - that's the problem. People need lives as well.

Seriously dude - she is probably completely sick of you because you can't handle not being with her.

Get some friends - hang out with them, hobbies, family, work, school,