HELP! Boyfriend of 3 and a half years wants to move out.
My boyfriend 28 and I 21 moved in together after being together 3 and a half years about 2 months ago. I am in nursing school and work part time bartending. He on the other hand owns his own landscaping business and feels like he needs space to focus on his business and feels like he wants to move out to do that.
I'm devastated and heartbroken willing to do anything to make it work. I feel like he's being selfish. I'm at a crossroad because he still wants to be together but move out and see me a few times a week whenever he has time. I don't know what to do or think. I love him so much been there through thick and thin helped support him through everything. He tells me he wants to marry me one day, but I can't accept the fact he's not willing to make it work now. Am I over reacting. I feel like he is turning his back on me? He is currently still at our condo but has told me several times he wants to move out and most the time really hostile about it.
Last night he said today is the day he will leave so when I go home I expect his stuff not to be there. When he wants sex all that changes and he acts nice and says he loves me. he doesn't even seem like the same person since we moved in together he used to do anything to have me by his side. I helped him get through some rough patches over the last six months and now he's on the road to start succeeding and wants to leave me behind I feel like. He said he still wants to be together when he moves out but I don't know if I can be with him.
My self esteem is really low right now, and I feel rejected.
Need real advice! Boyfriend of 3 1/2 years says he wants to move out and take break
My boyfriend of 3 & half years (28) me (21) just had a emotional discussion about him needing some space! I am heartbroken 😥 and confused... Although this did not come as a surprise. We have been arguing about petty things and he wants a break to get his life together and says he can't focus when all he's worried about is me and him. We have been living together 2 months and he currently just packed the rest of his belongings and is staying at a friends. He owns his own business and last year he had a very bad year and this year he's trying to make up for that and being with me he doesn't feel like he's going to progress since we keep arguing. He tells me that we both need to work on ourselves and a few weeks from now we can see where we are and how we both feel?? He said he doesn't have the time to put into juggling me and work and is very stressed out. He did say he loves me so much and he does want to be with me if we can get along he just thinks I'm young and deserve to be happy and he feels bad because he can't provide for me and doesn't have anything right now. I pay all the bills and go to nursing school and bartend. He also said he would make time for me on the weekends but not sure when that will be... I'm willing to make us work but I'm also Putting my heart on the line... watching him move his belonging out broke my heart and I'd do anything to make it right. I'm so in love with this man. I respect that he needs his time to focus on himself even though I cried and begged him to stay. He said I can call him if I need anything and he said he is not pursuing anyone else and he does see a future with me but he can't fight with me and he said I'll loose him forever if I call him and blow his phone up arguing with him. I told him if I don't know if I can put my heart out there to get hurt by waiting on him and him letting me down he said of its meant to be it will be... idk I feel abandoned. The question is should I cut off all contact and see if he comes around or should I renain in contact and let him see me on his circumstances even though nothing is promised but I know in my heart we both love each other so much?