So one of my best friends told me she was bisexaul a while ago and I'm fine with that, but recently she keeps making me feel really uncomfortable, like touching me a lot and getting really close to me in my personal space. She also is always making 'jokes' about us having s*x and being a couple and making sexual faces at me (you know the kind teenage boys do). She knows I'm straight and says she has girlfriend at another school but I don't know if that's true. I'm pretty sure she's flirting with me but I don't want to say anything cause it will make it awkward for us and for the whole group of us, what should I do? Thanks ( sorry it's long)

By the way were both 14 and both girls

You need to talk to her. This is, if it is as you're describing, bordering on sexual harassment. You need to let her know where you're boundaries are and that it isn't acceptable to cross them. This is something you should do in private. If don't and rely on signals and unspoken signs then this is just going to get worse. It might makes this awkward, but she needs to learn boundaries. It doesn't matter what you're orientation is, it isn't acceptable to make people uncomfortable with unwanted advances. You're going to get this a lot as you and your male friends mature.

Good luck and talk to her.

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Originally Posted by CravenMorhead

You need to talk to her. This is, if it is as you're describing, bordering on sexual harassment. You need to let her know where you're boundaries are and that it isn't acceptable to cross them. This is something you should do in private. If don't and rely on signals and unspoken signs then this is just going to get worse. It might makes this awkward, but she needs to learn boundaries. It doesn't matter what you're orientation is, it isn't acceptable to make people uncomfortable with unwanted advances. You're going to get this a lot as you and your male friends mature.

Good luck and talk to her.

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Hey I get what your saying but I don't want to be wrong and for her to hate me x

You simply tell her the truth. You feel uncomfortable having your personal space invaded and you don't feel comfortable with the sex talk. Honesty is always the best policy.

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Originally Posted by Taytay33

Hey I get what your saying but I don't want to be wrong and for her to hate me x

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If you're wrong but still feeling uncomfortable what happens then?

This could end the friendship, which is why you do it in private when you have a chance. Don't be willing to accept the way things are just because you want them to be your friend. IF your friend is making you feel like this, then what kind of friend is she?

I don't think it matters what the sexual orientation is, she is making you uncomfortable, and it needs to stop.

It sounds like she has already crossed the line with suggesting sex.

I think you need to think about how good a friend she is. And how her friendship affects you, and the others in the group. A good friend, will take you seriously, particularly about any moves coming your way by someone wanting you as a girlfriend, and respect your right to say, simply, 'no'.

I think most people would view your situation differently, if this were a male. The getting in your space, pushing you to accept the obvious desires of a serious, sexual relationship, making you uncomfortable. And again, regardless of the sexual orientation of this person, the behavior is unwarranted, not welcome, and won't stop, despite you saying that you are not interested.

I would be inclined to send her an email. Explain that she is making you uncomfortable with her remarks, touching, jokes, etc. Be specific. Let her know that you are tired of being put in the position of having to tolerate her unwelcome attention.

I would then say that if she is unable to stop her behavior, you will not only stop being friends with her, but you will let your parents know what's going on. If she were male, and your parents knew about this behavior, I think it would be appropriate for their intervention, should it not stop. This is no different.

She has to learn what your limits and boundaries are. That is the part you need to make clear in an email. Her part is accepting what you say, knowing there will be consequences for her behavior, should she decide not to stop.

Both of you need to learn. You to make your objections to her behavior as clear as possible, and her to learn that unwelcome attention will not be tolerated.

You treat her the same way you treat a boy who makes you uncomfortable. You talk privately with them about your concerns, and what makes you uncomfortable, and tell them don't do it.

Boy or girl,how would they know you are uncomfortable unless you say something to them? Yes it's always a bit awkward at first, but you do it anyway.

To be honest it's already awkward for you, isn't it?