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Should I say yes?

I meet this guy at me new job I started. He really nice and I like him a lot we get along great, have the same interests and he's kind of cute. He asked me if I wanted to go on a date with him to the movies. I really wanted to say yes, but I told him I would have to ask first. I do really like him but I'm a bit unsure he's older than me, his dad is me boss and I'm not to sure what me dad would think. I would have said yes straight away but I'm trying to think more about things before I do them. Me mum is away with her boyfriend in Bali I would usually ask her and I don't want to ask me dad. Don't know what to do any suggestions?

Ask your dad. He is the one you are responsible to. (P.S. Workplace relationships are NOT a good idea.)

No I can't ask me dad he doesn't really care what I do at the moment. I do really like him it does bother me that his dad is me boss but then I'm only working here until school starts

I agree with Wondergirl, I would also add you are new on the job and dating the boss son is not smart. How old are the two of you?

I'm 15 he's 17. I thought it might be a bit weird with his dad being my boss but he said his dad is cool with him asking me and I do really like him, but I don't want to mess everything up either

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No I can't ask me dad he doesn't really care what I do at the moment. I do really like him it does bother me that his dad is me boss but then I'm only working here until school starts

It doesn't matter that he doesn't care. (And I'm betting he does.) This is a wonderful way to start to get back his trust. I again am warning you about workplace relationships. They usually fall apart. And with the boss's son? Don't even think about it!

You don't really know if his dad is 'cool with him asking you'. I would pass if I were you. It isn't like he is the end all and be all of dating and you are better off not going even if you only have this job until school starts. Tell the guy the truth when you say no. Don't make something up that sounds better.

I guess we are all in agreement.

Your probably right it's probably a bad idea I just really like him and I'm kind of lonely no one to hang out with. It is only the movies though argh I don't know.

Maybe we should go but not on date just as friends?

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Seriously he really doesn't care he hardly even speaks to me anymore not that I care anyway. Your probably right it's probably a bad idea I just really like him and I'm kind of lonely no one to hang out with. It is only the movies though argh I don't know.

Maybe we should go but not on date just as friends?

Maybe you should listen to what has been said, that would be smarter. For some reason, you sound like another young lady who has problems listening to what has been said. I hope I am wrong on that.

I guess I already kind of new it was a bad idea. I don't want to mess up me job even if it is only for another 3 weeks. And I'll still get to hang out with him at work any way.

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I guess I already kind of new it was a bad idea. I don't want to mess up me job even if it is only for another 3 weeks. And I'll still get to hang out with him at work any way.

Yes, you can remain friends, and maybe something will come about when you quit that job. I wouldn't call it a bad idea, just not at the right time, not appropros, so to speak. No one I know dates within a working environment because they know it just does not work out. It is improper is what I am trying to get at. A romantic working relationship eventually becomes uncomfortable especially when the one you are dating is not trustworthy.

Just do your job and leave the bosses son alone. You may like the dude, being you are so lonely and bored and all, but keep it strictly business at work. You have enough troubles without getting all goo goo with a STRANGER!

Be pretty dumb to take the word of a older kid who happens to be the bosses son, and then find out the boss isn't okay with you seeing him. None of that matters anyway, since you need to stay away from trouble and temptation for a while.

At least you stopped to think before you acted, so keep thinking before you act. You're right, it's a bad idea right now for sure.

Thanks I told him this morning when I got to work that I liked him but didn't think it was a good idea to see each other in case it didn't work out and item it would be uncomfortable. He was disappointed but said he understood. He said he would like to still be friends and invited me over to his house after work today to hang out with him and his friends. I told him I'd think about it I'm not to sure though they are all older than me and I don't really know them at all

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Thanks I told him this morning when I got to work that I liked him but didn't think it was a good idea to see each other in case it didn't work out and item it would be uncomfortable. He was disappointed but said he understood. He said he would like to still be friends and invited me over to his house after work today to hang out with him and his friends. I told him I'd think about it I'm not to sure though they are all older than me and I don't really know them at all

If you want to gain back your dads trust then go to work, go home, do things around the house. Hanging out with a bunch of people you don't know, who are older than you, is not a good idea, that's what usually lands you (specifically you) in trouble.

.(( Hanging out with a bunch of people you don't know, who are older than you, is not a good idea, that's what usually lands you (specifically you) in trouble.))

I hope you get the Message. It was said very nicely and not how I would have said it. Deep meaning there.

Thanks I didn't end up going over to his house to hang out. Just kind of makes it hard going to work now though he keeps on asking me don't know what to say don't want to be mean.

He probably thinks I'm being a snob. I still have to work with him

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Thanks I didn't end up going over to his house to hang out. Just kind of makes it hard going to work now though he keeps on asking me don't know what to say don't want to be mean.

He probably thinks I'm being a snob. I still have to work with him

And once again you didn't follow the advice given, and once again you're now having even more issues because you didn't follow the advice.

Why do you ask for advice if you never have any intention of following it?

I did listen I didn't go to his house. He just keeps on asking me and I don't know what to say with out being rude

I don't like the idea of you going to the home of someone you hardly know and hanging out with his (male?) friends you don't know at all. Will his parents be there? You might be the only girl in a crowd of guys (who are older than you are). Talk about being a sitting duck! Not good.

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I did listen I didn't go to his house. He just keeps on asking me and I don't know what to say with out being rude

"No! Please stop asking me. Thank you."

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I did listen I didn't go to his house. He just keeps on asking me and I don't know what to say with out being rude

Sorry, I read your post and for some reason read that you did go to his house. I apologize for misreading it and posting what I did.

The fact is, you did the right thing. If he keeps asking, just tell him that you're trying to get back on track at home, that you have some trust issues with your dad and you don't want to screw that up, so for now you're laying low, going to work, working at home, doing well at school, and that's it.

That way you make it about you, not about him. If he keeps pushing then you may have to go to his dad and tell him that you feel harassed.